Dating Over 40: Five Ways to Stay Motivated on the Dating Journey

Have you been dating a long time? Maybe half your adult life? Maybe two years?  For some, even six months can feel like forever. I understand. As your dating coach, I can tell you that I’ve been where you are and so have most of my clients. so how do you keep things fresh and light-hearted when you feel tired of the whole thing?

Here is a list of five ways to stay positive and motivated on your dating journey:

1. Take a break if you need one
Yup, its important to give yourself a short breather if that’s what you feel will make the shift. I believe in trusting your instincts, so if you want to stop and take a break for a couple of weeks, no problem. But don’t let this go on for too long because non-dating inertia is a hard thing to overcome. Once you lose momentum and the clock keeps ticking, sometimes this alone can prove even more de-motivating. So keep the break as brief as makes sense.

2. Use affirmations to strengthen your belief and resolve
Last week I wrote a couple of posts about creating affirmations and the Law of Attraction. Affirmations are positive statements, said in the present tense as if they are happening now. For example: I am open to meeting new people and am attracting the right man for me now. Say these statements through out the day to boost your morale and  help you keep your belief strong and alive.

3. Every man you meet brings you one man closer to the right one
It’s impossible to know ahead of time how many men you will need to meet to find the right one. But one thing you do know is every man you meet, regardless of whether or not he’s the right one, brings you one step closer. think about that and let it bring you  the solace you need to keep going.

4. Lighten up and just meet new people
Take the pressure off. Just be happy to meet new people. That way if you meet a string of guys who disappoint you or are nice but not for you, you can find a way to enjoy each encounter. This is an excellent practice for maximizing the number of people you know. The more you know, the more chances of meeting one of his friends, relatives, colleagues, etc who just might be the right man! Stop worrying about whether each guy is the  one you’ve been looking for. Relax and you’ll be a lot more fun and magnetic for love.

5. Remember there’s only one reason to go through this journey
That’s right, only one reason. What is it? That YOU WILL MEET THE RIGHT MAN OF COURSE! Otherwise, going through all this learning, motivating, dating, meeting people serves no purpose. That doesn’t make any sense now does it? Nope!

So you must be doing this because you are on your way to finding the love you want. How’s that for a new positive philosophy? It worked for me, let me tell you! There were days when I wondered what I was doing. But then I’d sit back, get a grip on my emotional nature and realize – this experience serves no purpose unless its to meet Mr. Right. I did and so can you!

Do whatever you have to to stay positive and keep moving forward. As my matchmaker friend Nicole of C0mpatibles in Vermont says, “No one looks back after finding love and says, “Wow, what a waste of time that was!” Good point Nicole. Thank you.

Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

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