We made it! Yesterday, my husband and I celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary. We are still in love and things are going well.
Not that we don’t hit bumps in the road – because we certainly have our challenges. But we work on things to resolve our differences. Getting married for the first time at 43 (me) and 39 (Paul) we had our separate methods to living life that had to be melded and adjusted for a happy union. It’s a lot different than having met in our 20’s when adult life was just beginning and no real habits had been established.
We get along very well 98% of the time which for me makes it very worthwhile. I wouldn’t be able to handle constant fighting or disagreements. I am very careful about picking my battles and thinking not only short term but long term with handling our relationship.
I have found that relationships have a very delicate balance. This has become obvious from watching my friends relationships who have deteriorated, listening to dating coaching clients, and from friends who are therapists who deal with marital issues regularly.
So I try to never do things out of spite because to me, this is the road to ruin.
Back to our celebration. Paul came home with a beautiful spring bouquet of flowers, tied with a wide hot pink ribbon. We went to dinner at a new restaurant I had selected and had a wonderful meal in a romantic and historic setting (we both love antiques). After returning home, we exchanged and opened cards and … The evening was just as I had hoped.
As I think back to my 15 months of intense dating, getting to know 30 men to find Paul, I know in every cell of my being how worthwhile that journey was. Every hurtful event, every mean comment, every rejection, every time I was stood up, every broken-hearted moment – they were worth it. Because they lead me here to a lifetime partner, loving and challenging all at the same time.
DON’T GIVE UP YOUR SEARCH!
Finding the right man is totally possible. And very worthwhile. Open your eyes, mind and heart to men. Believe and know you will find him. Stop resisting and get out there. Be friendly, smile and make it easy for your Mr. Right to find and meet you. consider a broader range of who might fit into Mr. Right’s shoes. Enjoy the woman you are and leverage your feminine charm. You not only deserve love – you can have it!
If you want to know how I made my dream come true, you can find every single strategy, tip and method I used in my book MANifesting Mr. Right. Get your copy now and live your dream.
PS – Yeah, a black wedding dress. I just look so much better in black.