Dating Over 40: Celebrating My 10th Anniversary

You Can Get Married Over 40!
You Can Get Married Over 40!

We made it! Yesterday, my husband and I celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary. We are still in love and things are going well.

Not that we don’t hit bumps in the road – because we certainly have our challenges. But we work on things to resolve our differences. Getting married for the first time at 43 (me) and 39 (Paul) we had our separate methods to living life that had to be melded and adjusted for a happy union.  It’s a lot different than having met in our 20’s when adult life was just beginning and no real habits had been established.

We get along very well 98% of the time which for me makes it very worthwhile. I wouldn’t be able to handle constant fighting or disagreements. I am very careful about picking my battles and thinking not only short term but long term with handling our relationship.

I have found that relationships have a very delicate balance. This has become obvious from watching my friends relationships who have deteriorated, listening to dating coaching clients, and from friends who are therapists who deal with marital issues regularly.

So I try to never do things out of spite because  to me, this is the road to ruin.

Back to our celebration. Paul came home with a beautiful spring bouquet of flowers, tied with a wide hot pink ribbon. We went to dinner at a new restaurant I had selected and had a wonderful meal in a romantic and historic setting (we both love antiques). After returning home, we exchanged and opened cards and … The evening was just as I had hoped.

As I think back to my 15 months of intense dating, getting to know 30 men to find Paul, I know in every cell of my being how worthwhile that journey was. Every hurtful event, every mean comment, every rejection, every time I was stood up, every broken-hearted moment – they were worth it. Because they lead me here to a lifetime partner, loving and challenging all at the same time.


Finding the right man is totally possible. And very worthwhile. Open your eyes, mind and heart to men. Believe  and know you will find him. Stop resisting and get out there. Be friendly, smile and make it easy for your Mr. Right to find and meet you. consider a broader range of who might fit into Mr. Right’s shoes. Enjoy the woman you are and leverage your feminine charm. You not only deserve love – you can have it!

If you want to know how I made my dream come true, you can find every single strategy, tip and method I used in my book MANifesting Mr. Right. Get your copy now and live your dream.

PS – Yeah, a black wedding dress. I just look so much better in black.

Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

3 thoughts on “Dating Over 40: Celebrating My 10th Anniversary”

  1. Ronnie, congrats on your 10th anniversary. I know that as long as I believe I will never find true love, it will remain a self-fulfilling prophecy, but I just don’t have the emotional strength to go through another hurtful event, mean comment , rejection, stand up or broken-hearted moment. I am still grieving the loss of what I thought was my destiny, and it has been four years . . . I am much older than the other women, too. I am 51, and having fallen so hard this late in life and having known him for so long (four years), I just don’t know how to truly come to terms with it and truly move on. Even so, I do smile, I am friendly, but it is NOT easy. I have doomed myself to being alone because it seems like so much hard work, and quite frankly, I am tired. You don’t need to print this; I just thought I’d let you know my thoughts…

  2. Always lovely to hear inspiring stories from you (and Suzanne in above comment).

    I totally agree with you about attracting Mr Right. I have said similar in my own ebook ‘Find True Love’ – when we work out who we are and what we want, we can then develop and implement a plan to get there.

    Happy anniversary!

  3. Very uplifting post. As someone who got married for the first time at age 42 (and blogs about it at, I can soooo relate. I believe it’s both harder (meshing two fully formed lives) and easier (we are more grateful, perhaps?) to get married for the first time later in life. I am so glad to hear your message — you can find love at any age (first time or not). All the best!


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