Dating Over 40: 8 Tips to Amplify Allure & Attract More Men – Part 2

Yesterday, I shared the first four techniques to amplify your allure that I share with my over 40 dating coaching clients including:
1. Get out of the house
2. Be friendly
3. Dress for self-esteem
4. Hold your head up and smile

Don’t just resign yourself to being intimidating! Use your natural feminine charm to amplify your allure and draw men in. You may be equal to a man, but you are not the same. So use what the Lord gave you to ensure the survival of the species and have the spring-summer dating season you deserve!

Today’s post has the remaining four tips for an alluring arsenal of 8 methods to attract more men.

5. Approachable Body Languagesmiling woman
Studies show that attraction is 93% non-verbal.  So your body language is crucial to being approachable! Besides tip #4 above, keep these moves in mind. Tilt your head down slightly and look up through your eye lashes at a man. This is a brief exchange and very flirty! When you catch a man looking at you, smile first before turning your head away. Be sure not to cross your arms – that signals your boundaries are closed. Crossing your legs is OK and in fact if  the leg on top makes your foot point at him, that’s a non-verbal signal you are open to meet him.

6. Find a Conversation Piece
Patti Stanger, the Millionaire Matchmaker on Bravo TV says use a book as a prop. This can work at the beach, on a park bench or even at an upscale steak house bar where you can read and have a drink. This makes it so easy for men to approach and ask you, “What are you reading?” A funky pin or hat can also make it easy for a man to talk to you.

7.  Appeal to his Masculine Ego
If you see a man who catches your eye, you can make the first move by striking up  a conversation. This is not the same as asking him for his number or for a date – I don’t recommend that at all. But being friendly is ideal! Ask him for help,
– “Can you help me reach this?”
– “Do you know of a good place to go for happy hour?”
– “Can you help me get the bartender’s attention?”

Men like to help and be needed, so you’ll appeal to their macho nature.

You can also try a little flattery, but be genuine with compliments. Tell him you like his shirt or that the color looks great. I love a guy in a pink shirt and often remark how he must be very confident to look so good in that color. And if you go the compliment route, don’t over do it! Stick with no more than one or two or you risk appearing insincere or worse- desperate.

8. Relax and Enjoy the Day
When you relax and take time to enjoy some of the simple things life offers, you lighten your spirit and amplify your allure! Be happy for a sunny day, spring flowers, a summer breeze, the beauty of nature, or even a cafe latte from your favorite coffee shop. Take pleasure in the little things that are truly wonderful, yet you rarely even notice since you normally are too busy and hurried. Slow down and savor the richness of life that goes unnoticed and your appeal will sky rocket.

If you want men to approach and talk to you, you now have 8 potent tips to entice them.  Try one or do them all and discover how you can attract more men then you ever dreamed. It’s so amazingly easy!

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Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

1 thought on “Dating Over 40: 8 Tips to Amplify Allure & Attract More Men – Part 2”

  1. I like this and so true.

    Mostly have fun and enjoy (although I honestly recommend innocent fun – taking things too far too early is usually a recipe for a quick end perhaps regrets.)

    Interestingly, have only just found out about the feet pointing thing in the last week or so.

    There are times when to ask for help. Better to ask for things that can be done simply and immediately, this gives the man the quick satisfaction of feeling manly with little or no expectations attached – a win-win for both especially if you are short and relaly cannot reach that item you want!!

    Thanks Ronnie – another delightful post!


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