Dating After Divorce: Fred Gansky Asks, “Why Do You Resist Getting Help with Dating?”

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This article is a guest blog by Fred Gansky who owns the site 


Dating and relationships are far from precise entities and as best that I can remember, none of us took courses in school to increase our skill and knowledge levels in these areas. So, why is it after repeated mistakes, failures and embarrassments, we are still resistant to seeking help that might increase our likelihood of success?

I know women who can cook, but still take cooking classes. I know men who play golf who still take guidance on their swing. What are all those women doing with makeup artists at cosmetics counters? They’re learning! And, how many of us have been taught how to be better stock pickers or investors?

We are taught things all of the time, but when it comes to love and relationships, too few seek out worthy counselors who might aid them. People have no problem learning how to hit a backhand, but when it comes to learning how to be a better dater, too many seem reticent to admit that they could use outside help.

Is it a pride thing? Is seeking help in this area a statement that one is a failure, but learning a second language, how to shoot better pictures, paint sunsets, or downhill ski, doesn’t illicit such an emotion?

It is often the mark of maturity, wisdom, and perhaps self-awareness to know one’s limitations. This is especially true when dating after divorce or dating over 40. We can’t all be experts on every subject. And, if we are not dealing with certain subjects regularly, the task is even more difficult. That’s why a fresh approach, a different set of eyes, and an objective perspective may be just what you need to find success in the boomer dating game.

If you are dating over 40 and are truly committed to finding a relationship, I highly suggest you consider getting a coach’s help. There are hundreds of coaches in this field all over the country. I have over 50 writers contributing to my site. Most of them are dating coaches like Ronnie Ann Ryan. Read about the coach’s background and philosophy. See who your gut tells you might be the best fit, then call and speak to her. Interview her and ask questions. See if she captures your attention and earns your comfort and trust.

If you are dating over 40 or dating after divorce, and rigidly insist you don’t need coaching, then simply ask yourself, “Am I content with my current status?” Most assuredly, if you keep doing what you’ve been doing, you’ll keep getting what you have been getting. To get new and better results, try something new. Hire a dating coach!


Thanks Fred for this pitch on hiring a dating coach. I have worked with thousands of women to jump start or accelerate their search for love. People who follow my advice do get results! I’ve had many success stories, from marriage to long-term companionship.  If you get started now, you might have a date for New Year’s! 

To get started, simply give me a call at 203-877-3777 right now.

Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

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