Dating Advice for Women: You Have to Like Men to Find One to Love

Do you like men? You know, as people? In this post I share my dating advice for women that explains why you have to actually like men and appreciate them for who they in order to find one to love.

dating advice for womenDating Advice for Women Who Don’t Like Men

Women complain a lot about men. We all do it. But when I run into a single gal who spends a good amount of time complaining about men, saying they stink, talking about how women are so much better, I feel sad. Why? Because I know she’s likely to be alone a long time. If you bash men as a fun thing to do with the gals over a glass of wine, that is highly detrimental to your ability for attracting love.

Beacon of Negativity

I know this may sound “airy fairy” but everything you think, say and do sends out energy waves into the Universe. Most people are not that aware of the signals they send. So they never consider the message beacon they become for negativity.

When you consistently berate men, complain about them, think they are less than you, that’s the message the Universe hears. Since you spend time on this topic regularly, the Universe feels you must like it. The Universe is said to provide what we want, so sadly, you might end up attracting more crummy men. Then you have more evidence to prove your point – all men stink.

Yes this is not the truth at all. There are good men out there. Your sister might be married to one. Your father might have been a great guy. Your brother, neighbor, cousin, co-worker might be great men. If you open your eyes, you can find evidence that good men do exist. And they are NOT all married or taken either.

Dating Advice for Women

What are you supposed to do when you have been wronged or had bad experiences dating? As best you can, let it go. Don’t make a big pile of all the men who hurt or disappointed you. don’t let them add up to prove you are never going to find love. This is not true, but you can make it true if you continue to focus on it.

A better step to take is to imagine taking a big broom and sweeping away the pile. Or turning the pile to dust and letting it blow away. Whatever way you want to imagine all the pain, hurt and disappointment going through a transformation, go for it. Transformation is your end goal.

Then shift your view finder. Start looking for evidence of good men around you. From relatives to volunteers, to co-workers, look for evidence of the good guys. They are out there, you just have to open your eyes, your heart and your mind to see them. You’ll be surprised when the shift begins and you start noticing men in a new light.

Then you have a shot at liking men – some men not all of them of course. But when you start liking men, appreciating them for the wonderful qualities they bring to the human party, then you have a shot of finding one to love.

Men Are Amazing

They are strong physically and emotionally. They are smart, can fix things and make you feel safe and protected. Men are romantic, sweet and very sexy. Men are generous, sharing their time, their money, their smile and their heart. Men are supportive, thoughtful, and loyal. Men rock!

To find love, you have to love men. You cannot attract love into your life while you are spewing hatred and bitterness. That’s just not attractive is it? So find a way to make this shift. Recognize today when you start the usual negativity about men and become aware in the moment. Then stop!

Set a New Intention

From this moment on you are going to look for evidence that men can be wonderful. You’re going to ask your girlfriends to come up with one thing they admire about men. Then you can clink your wine glasses and make a toast to the wonderful men out there and the ones you are bound to meet and fall in love with. That’s my dating advice for women who want to find love.


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Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

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