Dating After 50? 6 Ways to Get Your Sexy Back!

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Have you heard how 40 is the new 30? That means 50 is the new 40 and by the way, 60 is the new 50! But maybe you don’t feel so young and attractive any more. Have no fear – here are some easy ways to recapture that youthful glow and feel desirable again.

Things you did when you were younger to feel hot still work today.

1. Buy new underwear and make it sexy please
When was the last time you bought a hot pair of undies? I bet it’s been a while. All the more reason so get yourself some new lingerie. Forget proper foundation for a woman your age! Buy leopard print, red lace or sheer black bras and panties. Choose colors you might never have considered. Look for pretty design details.

Then, when you wear these new beauties, even if no one knows, its your own sexy little secret. Think this is silly? It’s not! When you put on sexy undergarments, you’ll feel different all day whenever they come to mind. And when you do think about your new lingerie, allow yourself a sexy, joyful moment to fuel your willingness for dating after 50.

2. Wear your perfume
Do you own perfume but it sits lonely on your dresser top, gathering dust? What a shame! Today’s the day to give yourself a little spritz before going off to work or the store. Take a moment to inhale the luscious aroma and enjoy the sensuousness of your sense of smell. Then a few times during the day, why not sniff your wrist to revel in the fragrance again. Connecting to your senses is a sensual activity!

3. Fantasize like you did when you were younger
Did you spend time day dreaming in your youth? Perhaps imaging you were with a certain guy or maybe even a celebrity? Fantasy is good for your soul! It keeps you feeling young because you allow yourself to dream of unlikely possibilities.

As a child you spent hours pretending and using your creative energies. Bring a little of this creative spirit into your current life for the sake of the pure enjoyment it provides. Choose a female celebrity that you’d like to trade places with for just one day and imagine all the fun you could have and trouble you could get into. Allow this to awaken parts of you that have been asleep far too long.  That will help you get your sexy back so you’ll be willing to try dating after 50.

4. Play your favorite music from college
There have been numerous studies done about how music helps you recapture that youthful feeling and transports you to a time gone by. This will definitely help you feel energized and if you feel so moved, then get up and dance. for me, I remember jumping around to “Turning Japanese” and moving to Madonna’s “Holiday”. Ooooh that was a fun time when I did a lot of dancing, put temporary blue streaks in my dark hair and wore black lace gloves with no fingers.

Music elicits happy memories and lifts your spirit. So find your old favorites on or Spotify or drag out those old LPs if you still  have them and give them a whirl on your old turn table. (It’s embarrassing, but I still have mine.)

5. Feel the simmer
Yes, I am going THERE. Even if it’s been years since you were intimate with someone, don’t tell me you never feel any stirrings. Your human, so of course you do! Maybe you’ll notice the tingling sensations when you are watching a TV show or at the movies. Maybe it happens when you take a bath or apply lotion to your limbs. Let those stirrings rise and connect with the simmering energy in your body. You’ll feel more awake, more alive and a heck of a lot more desirable!

6. Read a romance novel
It’s true. Reading a romance novel can raise the passion within. While your life doesn’t resemble a trashy love story  which is probably a good thing, I am talking about awakening the fire within. Sometimes you have to do a little reading to get into the mindset.

Then put that book down and go out to a singles event! Your energy field will be sensual and you’ll be sending out all the right vibes to capture a man’s attention. If you’re dating over 50 (or at any age) let your natural allure shimmer and shine. Work it baby work it because you are hot!


Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

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