Tips to Help You Date Online
As a dating coach for women in midlife, I wish I had a dollar for every gal who told me “Online dating is not for me!” I’d be rich! For me, this closed off attitude about the Internet is such a shame. Why do I say that? Because to not date online, means your are missing out on one of the most prolific methods for finding single men available today.
I want to convince more women to check out online dating. In this post, I will bust three big myths wide open in the hopes of helping you get over your resistance. There is nothing you can do that’s cheaper or faster to jump start your love life than using the web.
Myth #1 – If You Date Online, You’re Desperate
A lot of women think this is true – Only a desperate woman would post her profile online. Yet, this is total nonsense! Today there are over 40 million singles in the US alone who are online hoping to find love. According to this myth – that would mean there are 40 million desperate souls!
The sheer volume of people online demonstrates this is not an act of desperation for a limited few. Quite the contrary – it is a prevalent means of finding dates for adults in the age of technology. Plus, according to new industry statistics, you are three times more likely to find love when you date online, then by any other method. That’s something to think about in my book.
Why is the Internet needed for dating? Why can’t you just relay on the old fashioned methods of meeting people through friends, or activities you like? Those methods can still work. However, they work best when you are in your early 20’s and most people are still single. In midlife, only half the adult population is single. So, the best place to find a large group of singles is…online!
Myth #2 – Men Who Date Online Are Creeps, Scammers, Cheats and Liars
This is another huge stumbling block regarding online dating for some women. If a man is online, he is probably no good right? This is equally ridiculous as the first myth when you really think about it. How could ALL MEN be creeps, scammers, cheats and liars?
I don’t believe for one minute that the majority of the male population is rotten to the core. Are there any creeps, etc. online? Yes, there are a small percentage – just like there are women who have these undesirable qualities. Men do not corner the market on having bad intentions.
But here’s the truth about pond scum, they exist in small numbers in every aspect of life. If you don’t date online, you will not completely avoid these guys. This is about being smart. The purpose of dating is to observe a man’s behavior. You date him to get to know him. You watch for consistency of his calls, his desire to see you and set up dates. You want to see that his words match his actions, so you can start to build trust.
This is true of men you meet online, men you meet at a work function, or men you meet at a party! All dates need to be scrutinized this way. So you are no safer not using the Internet. On the other hand,. you are not in more danger dating online. See how that works?
Myth #3 – Men Who Date Online Only Want Younger Women
If you look at the online dating profiles, it is true, many men seek younger women. Some are reasonable and will date women within 3-5 years of their own age. Others want to date women who are 10, 15 or 20 years younger. What you need to know about guys who want to date younger women is this – they are lonely and get little response.
Regardless of what those men want, younger women often don’t want them – unless they are super handsome or very wealthy. This is not a new trade off right? The desire for younger women has been around since the beginning of time. My dating advice is to forget those men who want younger women. They are not the right men for you. And they will likely remain single too!
However, there is a new breed of men out there today. Young men who are interested n dating older women! According to a study conducted by AARP, nearly 30% of women over 40 are dating a younger guy! Statistic don’t lie. So, it might be possible for you to date a younger man who appreciates an older woman’s experience, confidence, worldliness, etc. [Read more about dating younger men].
Today more than ever, there is a wide range of possible relationship situations. And, when you date online – the options are that much more available. Don’t limit yourself by avoiding online dating. Post a profile, put up a few pictures and see who you can connect with. Now 20% of all relationships start online. You could be the next one to find love online. If you are ready to post a profile and date online, checking out my Sizzle vs. Fizzle Online Home Study program.
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