Comments from the Environment
-This is one of my favorite songs. What do you think of the band?
-Would you please help me get the bar tender’s attention?
-Have you tasted this appetizer? It’s really good.
-How do you know the hostess or host?
-Your dog is so cute – what kind of dog is it?
-You have a great smile
-That color looks great on you
-What a nice shirt (touch it lightly on the arm for emphasis if you are really brave)
Comments from the World at Large
-How about those Mets, Nicks, Giants? (Depends on the sport in season)
-Local town news – did you hear about the board of education’s latest?
-Anything out of the news
-Beautiful day isn’t it?
-How did they ever let a man like you in here? (Then giggle of course)
-Why did your woman leave you standing here without her? (Good way to find out if he’s single)
-Do you have a woman at home who’d be jealous if I flirted with you? (ditto)
Clichés work! Don’t underestimate stating the obvious as a simple, but highly effective ice breaker. Most people are happy when someone else starts a conversation. Why? Because you’ve done them a big favor by making things easy. Trust me, this is something I really know not only as a dating coach, but as a woman who has tried it with great success.
The number one rule for striking up a conversation is not to take your efforts too seriously. The first thing you say doesn’t really even matter. It’s not that important, so take the pressure off.
Just do it and get in this habit. You will have more fun, meet a lot of interesting people and have a few great stores to tell. I’m still doing this – you never know who you are going to meet or who that person might know. The more you do this, the easier it gets. After the first few times, you’ll relax and start to look for opportunities.