Dating Over 40: Cinderella Gets Invited to the BBQ

Cinderella is an attractive gal, but she doesn’t always make the most of her natural gifts, shall we say. She’s hard working, incredibly busy and has many obligations soaking up her time. Sometimes Cinderella even has kids from the ex prince.

Surprisingly, Cinderella just got invited to a BBQ for Memorial Day weekend by a couple who actually knows a few decent single guys. The angst begins. 1) Time is tight because she’s got lots of projects and work to catch up on. And if she has kids this is her weekend.  2) She hasn’t been to a party in such a long time that the whole idea Is not very appealing. 3) She doesn’t have a thing to wear.
All three concerns are problematic for Cinderella, but let’s address them one be one.
Today, everyone is busy and over-worked. The question is, how important is your social life? Yes, kids come first (if you have ’em). But does that mean you get nothing? Start thinking about how you can create your life with room for you too. And if you aren’t a Mom, what are you putting first before yourself?
If you don’t make socializing some kind of priority in your life, you will never get to it. That’s a bold statement, but it’s the cold, hard truth. So DECIDE right now, when social opportunities crop up, you will take advantage of them. And if they don’t crop up, you will create some.
Out of Practice
It’s been a long time since you went to a party. There will be people you don’t know. Or worse, you may know the party goers and don’t long to spend time with them. So what? Your job as a single person looking for love is to get out there. Prince Charming doesn’t make house calls. But, you might meet him at a BBQ or some other social outing, speed dating event, etc.
The only solution is to get back into the swing of socializing. Do it right away – the longer you wait, the more inertia sets in, the less likely you’ll ever get out of the house. It’s comfortable where you live and comfort or lack of it, is the biggest reason why people don’t do anything to find love.  Get out of your comfort zone now. Go to the party!
Nothing to Wear
If you’re telling me you have nothing to wear, that’s a crime. Your fairy God mother won’t whip up an outfit– but you can BUY one. Do I have to beg you to shop? The point is to enhance your assets so make sure you look great in whatever you chose. Get prepared now so when the invitation comes in, you’re all set.
Trust me, if you take time to socialize, you won’t turn into a pumpkin. In fact, the chances of becoming a pumpkin are much greater by not venturing out! If you want to find love, make your social life a priority. Say yes to opportunities and follow through by attending them. When you get there, smile, make eye contact, be friendly and pretend (if you must) that you are having a great time. I guarantee that this will make you very attractive. It works every time like a charm.
Think of this story as inspiration from your own personal Fairy God Mother – The Dating Coach.
Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

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