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Dating Over 40: With a Wave of her Hand, She Met Him

September 10th, 2007 / Leave a Comment

This is a great  “How’d you meet him?” story. Pam was bumming because she had just broken up with her long-term guy.  She had been fixed up with Sam, but that didn’t work out.  Sitting at home moping, her parents couldn’t stand it and dragged her out to dinner with them.  The restaurant had an…

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Dating Over 40: Article from Oprah’s Mag Missed the Boat

September 7th, 2007 / Leave a Comment

Sitting at the hair salon, covering my roots and I glanced at the latest O Magazine.  The September issue has one, three articles about love and relationships listed on the cover. Excitedly, I turned the pages to read them over. Honestly, I was less than impressed. The one that could have been most interesting was about whether…

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Dating Over 40: She Caught his Attention with her Skirt

September 5th, 2007 / Leave a Comment

Here’s a great story about "how’d you find him?" Charlene took my It’s Never Too Late to Find Mr. Right workshop a few years ago.  She was really taken with the idea of flirting and enhancing her feminine allure.  To do so, Char decided to start wearing skirts – something she hadn’t done in some…

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Dating After Divorce: More on Cheaters

September 4th, 2007 / 3 comments

So I ran across this blog by Jeff Mac called Manslations – like translating man lingo. Pretty clever if you ask me.  I started reading this post he wrote in response to a woman who asked,  "How do you stop a man from cheating and lying and where to find a guy who doesn’t do…

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Dating After Divorce: Reality TV – Scott Baio on VH1

August 27th, 2007 / 2 comments

So I just got clued into this TV show on VH1 called Scott Baio is 45 and Single. From what I can tell, Scott has been working with a love coach or therapist called Doc Ali to figure out what he wants.   He has a girlfriend and apparently was trying to decide if he wanted to…

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Dating Over 40: I Spy?

August 26th, 2007 / 3 comments

– Are you the jealous type?  – Have you been known to google your date? – Do you start worrying right away if the person you are dating is seeing others?  – Do you check your date’s profile  for recent activity? If you have done these things on occasion, well, you’re human.  But if you…

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Dating Over 40: When is it OK to Roll in the Hay?

August 24th, 2007 / Leave a Comment

Just the other day one of my clients wanted to talk about sex.  She had questions about when it’s OK to become intimate.  We discussed the old saying "Why buy the cow when the milk is free?" Does this archaic way of looking at sex still hold true?  Do men still think this way?  Well,…

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Dating Over 40: Time Magazine Says No to eHarmony

August 23rd, 2007 / Leave a Comment

Sometimes I check around other coach’s blogs to see what they have to say.  And look what I found!  Kathryn Lord spotted this article from Time Magazine which tells would be daters to avoid eHarmony!  On one hand I’m not surprised because I think their system is awkward and that most men over 40 won’t…

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Dating Over 40: Baby Boomers – Encouragement for Dating Over 40

August 19th, 2007 / Leave a Comment

If you are a baby boomer, you might want to read this article about dating over 40.  Overall, it’s very positive with AARP statistics and comments from Dr. Pepper Schwartz of PerfectMatch. among others. Here’s the link from a New Jersey paper the Courier News.  The comment I liked best was that when people date…

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Dating Over 40: Parting Has Never Been So…Lucrative?

August 19th, 2007 / Leave a Comment

Last night I went to a friend’s party.  At the end of the night a few people were still sitting around and the subject came up about my dating coaching business. Carla was talking about how over the years she has received some nice "Parting Gifts" from guys who broker up with her. What?  I’ve…

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Dating Over 40: Do You Have the Sex-Kitten Curse?

August 16th, 2007 / Leave a Comment

Some women are just born sexy.  They can’t help it and often they don’t try – they just are.  It’s in their very nature.  But it’s not a guarantee for dating or relationship success.  In fact, it can actually be a curse! I know you are probably thinking, “I should be so cursed.”  But the…

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Dating Over 40: Captivating Conversation – How to Avoid Being Boring

August 14th, 2007 / 1 comment

Are you boring?  Who would answer "Yes" to that question? Most people don’t think of themselves as boring and luckily, most people aren’t.  But does that automatically make you intriguing?  Hmmmmm… When you go out to meet new people, what do you talk about?  Do you discuss work, family,  the weather? How do you feel when…

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Dating Over 40: The First eMail – What Do I Say?

August 10th, 2007 / Leave a Comment

You finally posted a profile online.  Congratulations!  You look around for people to contact.  But what should you say?  Here are a few tips that will get you started. 1) Less is better.  Don’t go on and on. Don’t ask too many questions. Don’t write more then 2-4 sentences.  Remember – short and sweet.  There’s a…

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Dating Over 40: How Do I Decide What Advice to Follow?

August 8th, 2007 / Leave a Comment

Do you get overwhelmed or confused by too much advice?  Is it hard to know which advice to follow? I had this problem when I was dating and still encounter it regarding other situations in my life.  Sometimes too much information can just paralyze me.  Other times rehashing and thinking of new solutions drains my…

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Dating Over 40: The Dating State of Mind

August 5th, 2007 / Leave a Comment

If you want to be in a relationship, the first step to your search is getting into a dating state of mind.  In my book MANifesting Mr. Right, I call this Adopting Dater’s Mind.  When you have dater’s mind, you think of yourself as someone who dates.  Sounds silly huh?  Not really.  If you don’t…

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Dating After Divorce: Grocery Store Pick Up

August 5th, 2007 / Leave a Comment

My friend Terry MacDonald of MarrySmart fame, told me this story.  She met a woman this summer who met her husband at the grocery store.  Not just your average Joe however.  Turns out he is the great grand son of Franklin Delano Roosevelt and very wealthy. So next time you head out to shop – do…

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Dating Over 40: Most Men Want to Pay

July 26th, 2007 / 2 comments

What’s the top question women ask me about dating? Well, after “Where can I find a decent guy?” the most common question is – “Who pays on the first date?” Now I am happily married, but this was an unusual week because I did a lot of networking. Six one-on-one sessions, plus two big events.  The…

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Dating Over 40: Confessions of a Matchmaker

July 22nd, 2007 / Leave a Comment

 Have you watched the new reality show called Confessions of a Matchmaker?  It’s on A&E at 10pm(est)  Saturday nights. (Interesting program timing huh?) Patti Novak, a Buffalo, NY matchmaker tells how she sees it.  When discussing dates with her clients, she shares her ideas and advice in a pretty direct way.  Even if clients squirm…

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Dating Over 40: Get Off the Bitter-Bus!

July 21st, 2007 / 1 comment

Talking with Kelly from MA this morning writing her online dating profile. She was telling me about a friend of hers who is on the Bitter-Bus.  What ? I never heard of that before.  What a descriptive euphemism for being down on dating. When you are negative about the singles’ scene, you actually sabotage your…

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Dating Over 40: He’s Not “My” Type

July 19th, 2007 / 5 comments

Do you meet men, but none of them are right for you? Do the men you date have similar issues or patterns? This week I had a client who said she didn’t meet many men who interested her.  When women say this, I always ask if they have a "type."  Dana denied it.  "Nope, I…

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