Online Dating Advice: Do You Take Rejection Personally?

Online Dating Advice Last week, the big topic was online dating rejection. Many of my dating coaching clients feel very angry and frustrated by their experiences online. They are confused and tired of being rejected senselessly. Women want to know why men:  Don’t respond to their emails Ask for your number, but don’t call Suddenly … Read more

Virtual Dating: Don’t Waste Time with Relationships that Aren’t in Real Time

Have you gotten involved in a relationship that involved  only email, IMing or texting? The guy seems really interested. He communicates frequently via technology. Some of the messages are really sweet. He updates you on what he’s doing and where he’s going. So why haven’t you seen much of him? And sometimes, you haven’t even met … Read more

He Chased You and Then Disappeared – 6 Ways to Recover

You are dating over 40 and maybe dating after divorce. You’ve been involved with online dating for weeks (or even months) and have finally met  a guy with some grip. A man who has captured your attention and piqued your curiosity. A man you want to get to know who seems to bring out your … Read more

Online Dating – A Real Relationship Reguires More than Email

Dear Ronnie – The Dating Coach, For 3 months I’ve been chatting online with a man who lives 2.5 hours away. A month ago he asked me out and we agreed to give a relationship a try. Due to scheduling conflicts on both sides, our date was set for this Saturday, May 7th. The plan was … Read more

Online Dating: Create a Profile to Attract The Guy of Your Dreams

Guest Blog written by my friend and favorite midlife single guy, John Follis. Background John is a Madison Avenue advertising man (have you seen Mad Men on A&E?), but he’s current day, not from the past. He wouldn’t cheat on his wife though  – he’s a good man and an eligible single guy too! He’s a direct, … Read more

Dating Over 40: When Online Dating Just Stinks!

Everytime I speak or present a workshop on any dating topic, the conversation is guaranteed to end up on how online dating stinks! People are frustrated, angry, bitter, confused and fall into despair about this method to meet new people. What are they mad about? Here’s what my dating coaching clients tell me who are … Read more

Dating Over 40: I’m Better at Looking for What’s Wrong with Him than What’s Right

Dear Ronnie – The Dating Coach My sister told me something recently after I shared how my last coffee date went with a guy from an online dating site. Bev said she thinks I’m looking for things that are wrong with the guy on a first date instead of really looking for what’s right. Only family … Read more

Dating After Divorce: My Type of Guy Doesn’t Do Online Dating

Dear Ronnie – The Dating Coach, I have a quick question for you. I am a woman recently divorced who is 31 years old. I’m a successful graphic designer who has only ever dated men who I have this in common with (a very good thing about my past relationships). All the advice I see on the web about … Read more

Online Dating: Zero Date Means Your First Date Is Not A Real Date

What is a Zero Date? It’s a first date when you meet via online dating or the apps. Here’s why it doesn’t count as a real first date. Get Real about a First Date One thing I share with my love coaching clients that makes a big difference for setting expectations is calling your coffee … Read more

Dating Over 40: Responding to a Man from Who Winks at You

Dear Ronnie – The Dating Coach, I’m new to online dating and  Lately I’ve been receiving quite a few winks from men and I’m not sure how to respond. should I wink back or send an email? What do you recommend? Thanks, Been Winked At Dear Been, Overall, my recommended strategy regarding responding to … Read more

Online Dating: Can I Contact Men on Match or Is that HIS Territory?

Dear Ronnie, I’m 45, divorce three years and ready to start meeting men!  I decided to try the online dating thing and have  question. When on a dating site, such as, what is the etiquette about contacting men?  Should I just wait for men to connect with me, either through a wink or an … Read more

Online Dating: How Do I Weed Out the Unsavory Types?

Dear Dating Coach, “Every time I meet someone on a dating website, they turn out to be completely opposite of what I read about them. There are also a lot of creepy people on them also. How do I weed them out?” Missing the Mark is Missouri Dear Missing, Thanks for your question. Sorry to … Read more

Dating Over 50: What Do You Recommend to Find Love?

Dear Ronnie – The Dating Coach, I am a 54 year old single woman from Seattle who is ready to find love. Just bought your book and am so excited to read it! I am staying positive about meeting the perfect mate for me! I’d like a mate who shares some of my interests like: music (jazz, R … Read more

Dating Over 40: 5 Tips to Make Online Dating Sizzle

Frequently, clients come to me for dating coaching when they are frustrated with online dating. They don’t like the men who wink or email. They don’t understand why men email, then disappear. They are tired of pen pals or guys who never get around to meeting. There are so many things that are annoying about … Read more

Over 40 Dating: Connecting on Facebook – Cyberspace vs. Real Life

How do you know if a guy you knew in high school could be a decent dating prospect today when you reconnect via Facebook? Last week, Alice,  a divorced woman  in her 40’s, wrote to me asking for dating coaching advice about a guy on Facebook. She’s been reconnecting with school buddies and found one … Read more

Dating Over 40: NY Times Article Questions Validity of Online Dating Sites with Personality Tests

As I’ve been saying all along, there’s little hard proof that sites that match you based on compatibility will deliver better results than other online dating sites. This NY Times article says that further research is being conducted to determine just how effective sites like eHarmony and really are. One thing that did not … Read more

Dating Over 40: Why Online Dating is NOT the Same as Catalog Shopping

Last night I gave a talk at Dr. Ellen Mahony’s office in Westport, CT. Not one of my traditional venues, but certainly a great place to meet women over 40! Dr. Ellen is just a doll, so if you are interested in getting a little somethin’ somethin’ done, check her out. Anyway, I was talking … Read more

Over 40 Dating: e-Harmony Sends Matches from Men Who Are Inactive!

If you read my blog or newsletter, you know I advise against e-Harmony, particularly for the over 40 crowd. Men Don’t Care about Personality Tests I have nothing against the site. It’s just that I don’t think many men are willing to fill out 436 questions about their personality. The vast majority of men can’t … Read more