Dating Over 40: Can You Mimic the Sensuality of Cat Woman?

Today on my morning walk, I noticed two young girls in costumes riding scooters. The older girl had on a super hero costume iI didn’t recognize. The other had on a black velvet leotard with black tights, two pointy ears on a headband and a plush black tail pinned to her bottom. The tail wagged back and forth as she moved the scooter with her left leg.

As I walked past I commented, "A super hero and a cat – how fun!" To which the feline-costumed girl replied, "No I’m Cat Woman!"  Well I should have known that.

I couldn’t help but think about Cat Woman later in the day, realizing what a great role model she could be for connecting with your allure. Do you remember the original Cat Woman from the Batman TV show in the sixties? Julie Newmar played the role with true brilliance, combining cat-like moves with a seductive feminine approach – all to "get over" on BatMan. Halle Berry didn’t do so bad in the recent movie either.

Naturally, when you go out to meet men, you probably don’t want to play up the sensuality or seduction too much. But the allure is still a good idea to capture the attention of more men.

Here are six tips that can lure the guys in once they get close enough for conversation:

1. Try the Flirty Look
When looking at a man, tuck your chin down and back, the look up through your eye lashes – very flirty. Princess Diana was the queen of this demur move and was often caught by camera with this look.

2. Put on a Happy Face
Present an upbeat and positive personality. If you are fun and pleasant to be with, it makes things easier and a lot more fun too!

3. Heat Up the Conversation
Use words that heat up a conversation. For example, find a way to include words like attractive, sultry, crazy about, dreamy, magical, passionate, exquisite to name a few. Don’t be direct with these words, but work them into the conversation perhaps in unexpected places. "I’m really passionate about my oil painting class."  This summer’s weather has been rather sultry." Romantic movies like that are so dreamy." You get the idea. It’s not about being direct, but these words used in any sentence will heat things up without sounding cheap or aggressive.

4. Gaze into His Eyes
Looking into someone’s eyes for more than two or three seconds is a very intimate move. It’s unusual to do this before you know a man better, but lingering a bit longer has an enticing quality. These long eye connections are normally reserved for mothers and babies or couples in love. So when you linger with your gaze while talking to a new guy, you give him that intimate impression. Make that body language work for you.

5, Check Him Out!
While you don’t want to give him a bold or obvious once over, you can do this subtly to let him know you are attracted. Look him in the eyes, then sweep his body for just a second or two before returning to his eyes. This is another body language move that will get his heart pumping without you appearing aggressive. Just interested. It’s a great ego boost for him.

6. Touch Him
When you are making a point about something during your conversation, lightly touch his arm to reinforce your comment. This crossing over from talking to touching will heighten your appeal for sure. Once you cross the boundary with touch, you let a man know you are open to him and attracted as well. if a man needs reassurance, this will do it for sure. This is a quick and gentle move, so don’t over do it with length of time or frequency. You don’t want to seem "easy" just available and interested.

If you are new to these moves, keep this fact in mind: Men will not know that you don’t act like this all the time or that you are uncomfortable. That’s because the men don’t know you yet, so they have no reason to think how out of character your actions are! Use that anonymity to your advantage and practice up so you can be ready for the guy that really trips your trigger!

Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

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