Dating Over 40: Can a New Crush, Crush a Committed Relationship?

I found a great blog post by Sherry Amatenstein who writes for and’s Chemistry among others.  The post was in answer to a question about admiring and having a crush on another when in a committed relationship.  Sherry’s response was interesting and entertaining.  Read about it here if you want to find out why she thinks its good AND bad.

Sherry won’t say never to these types of questions, because even if you "go astray" (my words) it can lead to a deeper look and examination of your current relationship.  I’m not so open minded.  Yes, you could get a deeper look, but you could also ruin something good as well in the process.  If you’re willing to take that risk – I guess that in itself makes a statement regarding your feelings for the current relationship right?

There are many idioms referring to this type of behavior which obviously must be prevalent enough to have phrases coined right? Here are two favorites:

The grass is always greener on the other side
You want to have your cake and eat it too

If you ‘ve got others, let me know!


Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

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