Dear Ronnie The Dating Coach,
“I am very upset this holiday because my boyfriend broke up with me. He was driving me crazy because he does not have much time for me. He is in college full time, works 3-4 days a week at night, and fixes his grandma’s house. Plus he lives 2 hours away and we only saw each other once or two times a month for a few hours a day. We dated for 7 months, then broke up. It has been 10 months and we still have not met to talk things out. I am a mess
But, what makes me really mad is that he has a friend Linda (for 27 years) and sees her a lot. I got jealous because he goes on single bus trips with her and never made time for me anymore. We had a big fight and broke up. I saw your website and wondered, can you help me fix a broken heart?”
Breakups are never fun and things can feel worse over the holidays. So I empathize with you on how that feels.
You have asked me for help with a broken heart and I have written other blog posts about that. For a quick reminder here are a few things you can do that will help:
1. Remember the things that made you made about your boyfriend whenever you start missing him and focusing only on what was good.
2. Do anything you can to build your self-esteem, such as getting a new hair style, new make up, a few new outfits, working with a personal trainer, prayer, etc.
3. Spend time with girlfriends and family – people who will make you laugh and feel happy.
4. Distract yourself by reading a good book, watching movies, exercising, starting a new project or taking up a new hobby.
5. You can read more from another post here.
What I really want to talk with you about is why you want a man back who treated you so poorly. This is a list of the things your boyfriend did that hurt your feelings:
- He didn’t make you a priority
- Was too busy to see you
- Spent time with a female friend vs. you
- Goes on singles bus trips without you
- Didn’t talk to you about the breakup
This man didn’t value you as a girlfriend – at least not that I can tell from your email.I think you deserve a better man. You deserve a man who treats you right, wants to see you, wants to spend time with you, enjoys your company and is concerned about your feelings.
Your boyfriend was not ready for a relationship and his actions proved that over and over again. As a dating coach for women, I advise you to do what you can to let him go and seek a better man who will value you as a woman and girlfriend.
Wishing you love,
Ronnie Ann Ryan – The Dating Coach
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