Dating After Divorce: Becoming More Positive about Dating or Anything

Ever hear of Jerry and Esther Hicks? They run workshops called, "The Art of Allowing" which are very interesting. Esther shares insights about the Law of Attraction and how to apply it to anything and EVERYTHING in life. After listening to one of the recordings,  I come away uplifted and feeling good.

The most powerful thing I learned this week is what I want to share with you now. But first i have to give you the set up so you can get it like I did.
Have you noticed that voice in your head with the constant internal dialog? Is it positive? Does it make you feel worried? Does it mostly criticize you and others? Quite often, that voice has a good deal of nasty comments and runs rather negative.  Admittedly, mine does. Until I remember this plain and simple truth:
My inner voice is not my true authentic self!
Then in working to be more positive, I sometimes start to chastise myself for being a negative thinker. Why is it so hard to change? Why am I not better at this by now? Why can’t i just be more positive on a consistent basis?
But guess what? That’s the same nasty inner voice running its racket on me again! Huh? Yup it’s true. We cannot rationalize our way out of this. It just is what it is. A vicious little  thought loop that is inescapable if you continue to use that same method to change things.

So what can be done to change things?
Recognize that every new moment is a gift. It’s a gift because it holds within it the possibility for a new beginning. Each second that ticks by is another opportunity to start fresh. You can’t look back and moan over the time lost to negative thinking – because that is MORE NEGATIVE THINKING! The only thing you can do to break the cycle is to START THINKING ABOUT SOMETHING THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY AND FEEL GOOD RIGHT NOW. That’s it!
Sounds so simple, but it can be so difficult. It’s just not our natural habit of thinking. We are more familiar with the groove of negativity. it’s comfortable. We know how to think like that. We know how to beat ourselves up and feel bad. And we do it so well.
So next time you want to feel more positive, just think about something fun or nice or a fond memory or a positive thought about your future, or the warmth of the sun on your skin, or the beauty of fall flowers like mums and asters. The actual thought doesn’t matter as long as it’s one of happiness or gratefulness.
If you want to become more positive about dating, find one good thought about it. One positive thought about the future, about meeting new people, one great smile, one fun dance, one warm hand, etc.

Anything will do, so long as you start. Start right now. Start in this moment. Start in 5 minutes. Any time you start is a new beginning and whatever you do, don’t look back. But if you do, no problem, just start again now.

It’s powerful and freeing to remember that every second of your life holds the possibility of starting fresh and feeling good.
Lots of love for you today!


Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony,, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.

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