Dating Over 40: Become Your Own Matchmaker – Review of Millionaire Matchmaker’s New Book

Become Your Own MatchmakerI just finished reading Bravo TV star, Patti Stanger’s new book – Become Your Own Matchmaker. While her business is directed mostly at men, this book offers excellent dating advice for women. I agree with much of what Patti has to say.

From detoxing a past love and bad dating experiences, to where to find men (page 103 – a few new ideas here!) to relationships check list and negotiating the ring, it’s all in here. Patti takes you step by step through the process she’d advise if you were her client.

My favorite  parts?

Chapter 5 Dating Adventures. Patti has written a whole section on who should make the calls and when. as well as her 10 Commandments for Dating. She also gives a fantastic run down of what not to talk about and why – very savvy!

In Chapter 6 – First Days of Infatuation, Patti gives you a red flag watch list with keen insights into men’s behaviors. I learned a few new things myself and she also confirmed a lot of my experience and thoughts on this subject.

But even better, Patti wisely gives you good flags to watch for and consider strongly as evidence of finding a really great guy. I loved this list because she points out some very important relationship details that get overlooked for things like bald vs. hair and MBA vs. BA.

There are so many good books coming out this Valentine’s Season and it’s hard to know what to read. But the Millionaire Matchmaker’s book is a sure bet!

Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony,, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.

11 thoughts on “Dating Over 40: Become Your Own Matchmaker – Review of Millionaire Matchmaker’s New Book”

  1. What are the 10 more important questions I should ask a guy at the fist date? I love Patti’s TV show she is the best!! one think that I love about her is that she is very stray forward with her clients and I know rich people don’t like that. hahaha!

  2. I watch her show rarely but when I do I also laugh at the guys on the show – yes, they’re rich financially but typically have zero maturity and are not husband material.

    It’s definitely true that looks and money do not determine relationship success – if they did then why is the divorce rate in Hollywood 90%?

    Ladies, unfortunately us men are very visual and we’re not trying to be – we are really are born that way, so we all have to live with it. If you look good it does help. And, let’s face it, women want a good looking guy as well. More than anything guys want a woman who’s kind, secure, confident, and exudes an inner beauty – that’s always more important that outward beauty.

  3. It’s funny Stanger puts so much emphasis on looks. Just because you’re really attractive doesn’t mean you will attract somebody really attractive. Haven’t you ever seen really attractive people with average people? Two gorgeous people are just going to end up fighting for the mirror.

    • Hi Marlena,

      You are so right! Sometimes good looking people end up together but not always. And looks aren’t the only thing that matters – unless you are a millionnaire paying to meet the specific type of women you want – then Patti has to deal with finding that. Always keep in mind that Stanger’s advice on the show is all about satisfying her wealthy clientelle and then take it with a grain of salt regarding your love life.

  4. I watch every episode and I think it is great. I have learn a lot about men and my own personal improvement. She may come across brutal, but she is telling the truth on how men look at women. I have my profile on and most of them my age want healthy, beautiful women, and I work at being that way because I enjoy looking beautiful. And don’t forget how she tries her hardest to change the arrogant attitudes of these men especially the ageists who want pretty young things. She also does not take arrogant attitudes from the millionaire women. Let’s face it ladies, most men want the whole package and they seem to find it. I plan on being part of that group.

    • Lillian, great attitude! Thanks for sharing your perspective. I agree completely. Patti can be brutal, but she also knows what works. How wonderful is it that you know what you need to do and are willing to do it to make romance work for you! Whahoooo!

  5. This is very sad to me. What does she have against curly hair? I have curly/ wavy hair and guys are always telling me it’s sexy. Honestly I don’t think she should be giving anyone beauty advice.

    • Louisa, – I totally understand what you are saying and curly hair CAN BE very sexy. My advice is to keep in mind that her hair comment is just one tiny piece of so much more. You can find something to disagree with from every expert – even me. But don’t throw the proverbial baby out with the bath water. Patti has a lot of really good things to say too.

  6. Ronnie, Thanks for the book review. I watch Patti’s show from time to time and it always makes me laugh. Reinforces that just because guys have money doesn’t make them a “good catch.”

  7. I’ve tried watching her show & don’t like it. I know I have to put effort into my appearance & behavior but after seeing her look women up & down then fire off “get hair extensions, straighten your hair, show some skin” I was turned off. I realize I should enhance or show off what I have but not willing to change who I am or pretend I’m someone I’m not in order to attract a person. At some point the hair extensions need to come off 🙂
    You really think her book is worth spending the $$?

    • Hi Sue,
      Let’s remember that her show is made for TV. Adn her clients are millionaires from LA. So if you aren’t on the show and not looking to meet a millionaire, you can take some pressure off.

      I agree – at some point the extensions will come off. But to me, the real take way is to do what you can to be the best you can be! You don’t need to try to be anyone else. But certainly make the most of what you have and who you are. For some that might mean a few new outfits, a new hairstyle and a change in make up.

      Patti’s job is to find women for these finicky millionaires. In her book, she gives basically sound advice that can apply to most women. Some of it may annoy you, but some of most dating books will be like that. Take the parts you can use and ignore the rest!

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