Dating Over 40: Attracting Men and the Abundance of the Universe – I Found a 5 Leaf Clover

4-leaf-cloverSunday, working in my yard, I found not only a four leaf clover, but a five leaf clover too. You might not believe me. Most people I’ve told, question this extraordinary find, insisting that it must be another type of plant. But it’s a clover for sure. There it was, starring up at me from a  big bunch of clovers.

I picked it the moment my eyes landed on it, but at first I thought there were only four leaves. That was exciting enough. But, hiding underneath the top four, was yet another petal or leaf. FIVE – count ’em FIVE leaves on one clover. I counted again because I just couldn’t believe my eyes.

Screaming with wild abandon, I ran into the house to show my husband. He didn’t believe me either – even though he looked at it with his own eyes, insisting that it must be some other type of plant. Ignoring his comments, I didn’t let it deflate my fabulous feelings of elation. I tucked the unusual specimen into a thick book, and went back outside  to weeding.

Naturally I returned to the same spot where I was to pick up where I left off when – eureka – I found a four leaf clover! I picked that one too and took it into the house to press between the pages of the same book.

I couldn’t help but think – wow that’s a lot of luck. Then in a moment of self-doubt I wondered if  it was a freakish anomaly? No, definitely a lucky sign and  a dynamic message of prosperity and Universal abundance. Yahoo!

The Universe is an amazingly abundant place. There’s no doubt about that. Just try to count the grains of sand on a beach or the blades of grass in your lawn, or even the leaves on a big maple  tree. (Or the leaves on my clovers.) Evidence of plenty is around us regardless of what the media says or  how the economy is going..

Even if you feel you live in limitation, which we all can from time to time, the abundance of the Universe is still there to behold.

What has this got to do with attracting men? PLENTY!

If you can start to believe that there are plenty of men out there:

  • You will keep up with your efforts to meet men
  • You will be able to think “Who’s next?” if you meet a guy who disappoints you
  • You will look for opportunities to meet new men
  • You will start noticing that men are all around you every day
  • You won’t feel compelled to hold on to the wrong guy thinking you’ll never find another

That’s a lot of empowerment. And its all completely true. The Universe is filled with men. They may not all be right for you, but the supply is vast and limitless. Take a moment to really think about that fact and absorb it.

Many of my dating coaching clients insist that this is not the case. They feel there are no good men left. The good ones are taken or gay. This type of thinking is what causes so many people to give up before they really get going with their search.

Developing a belief in abundance can turn your dating life around and bring you the success you want. Sometimes it may feel like looking for a needle in a haystack – but that is still an image of abundance – is it not? Plenty of hay! And hay doesn’t negate that the needle exists. It simply means you may have to develop a bit of perseverance to keep going until you find what you want.

This summer, why not become determined to see the Universe as abundant? When you meet men that don’t satisfy, just think – “Who is next?”  Keep yourself moving forward and feeling positive that you will find the right man for you. And better yet – that he will find you!

If you are out there looking – that means you are making yourself available – and making it easier for the love of your life to find you! 

It’s easy to complain that dating is  not worth your time and you don’t want to bother.  Stamina and faith are required to persevere –  mingling and meeting new people. But which one will reward you? Complaining or keeping the faith

I want to reach through your computer or blackberry right now and share my recent brush with Universal abundance to bring you hope. This way of thinking kept me moving to date 30 men in 15 months – I met my husband and the rest is history. YOU CAN DO TI TOO!

If you feel you could use some help with believing, check out my audio program called I Believe in Love which includes a series of positive affirmations about finding and deserving love.

Here’s what  Katie (42 and divorced) says about the program:

“When I started listening to the CD, I was angry about dating and men and not much of a believer in the idea that I could find love. But I really wanted this to be true. I decided to give Ronnie’s audio a try. After the first week I felt more positive and with more time, the shift surprise me! Now I feel like finding love is a real possibility for me and if I start to slip back into doubt,   I just pop in the CD and listen all over again. What a tremendous help – thank you Ronnie!”

photo credit  cygnus

Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

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