Dating Over 40: A Flirty, Fun Summer – What’s That?

One of my newest clients asked me what a flirty fun summer is supposed to be like.  That’s what I’ve been talking about a lot lately. The idea involves enjoying yourself while flirting with men. But let’s take a step back further to really examine what flirty fun might mean.

According to, the word FLIRT means:
To act amorously without serious intentions; to play at love

According to, the word FUN means:
Something that provides mirth or amusement, enjoyment or playfulness.

So Flirty Fun would be to act amorously without serious intentions for enjoyment.  Sounds like fun to me!

This is a very different agenda than to find a serious dating partner. Although, it might very well be a delicious byproduct of your flirty fun summer. The focus is on getting good at flirting, which improves your self esteem, builds your self-image, and most importantly, makes you very approachable.

Your approachability and your desirability are crucial to your ultimate dating success.

It’s a strategy to get good at, comfortable with and happy about talking with men you don’t know. And it’s one that works.

When you take the pressure off only speaking to potential Mr. Rights, you dramatically improve your approachability. I’m not saying you should date a bunch of Mr. Wrongs. Instead, I’m suggesting that you talk to a wide range of men and learn to enjoy it. When you enjoy talking with men, you send out an entirely different non-verbal message to the Universe (and to men) which is:

I like men! I have fun talking to new men! It’s fun to flirt with guys and I use my feminine charm which is my birth right. Flirting is a playful past time. I’ll feel good. And the men will feel good. And there’s no strings attached and no promises made. And, I laugh a lot, smile a lot more, and can look back at my summer and think – Wow – what a blast!

I have so many great memories and wonderful stories that will surely entertain my friends. Plus, now that I’m good at flirting, it’s simply part of who I am – I can do it way beyond the summer months. Which means I can have flirty fun any time, any where.

Why not take the challenge? What if you could meet 50 men during the 100 days of summer? Looking back after Labor Day weekend, you could recount all the men you met, fun you had, and dates you enjoyed. So many things happened that you never would have dreamed were possible.

And what is the downside? I can’t think of much downside to fun. Frankly I can never seem to have too much fun. I live for fun and laughter. That’s why I still flirt – it’s a spontaneous use of my sense of humor and creativity and it makes me happy. I like to make other people smile.

What about you? Give it a whirl! You don’t have much to lose, but you have so much flirty fun to gain.


Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony,, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.

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