Dating Over 40: 8 Love Lessons for Hanukah – Lesson #8

We made it to the eighth day of Hanukkah and  the last  of the 8 Love Lessons for Hanukkah. The series has leveraged the miraculous energy of Festival of Lights to shed light on your love life, with eight simple lessons to attract love . I hope you’ve enjoyed each one and will apply some of the wisdom and suggestions.

Love Lesson #8 –  It’s Raining Men!

There have never been this many single adults in the history of the world. No really, that’s a fact. Women’s Lib and the Sexual Revolution gave us our ability to achieve financial independence and sexual freedom. We can thank the social turmoil of the 1960s and 1970s for that turn around. Thee social changes, combined with a divorce rate of nearly 60%, has resulted in half the adult population being single.
For the first time in recorded history, people are living the single life In their 40’s 50s, and 60s and enjoying it. Some are suddenly single again while others allowed career to take precedence. But no matter the reason, that’s a heck of a lot of single people – 40 million over the age of 40. How’s that for a statistic?
While it’s true that 51% of women are single, that is the same as the birth rate and only two percent higher than the number of men.
Now I hear a lot of complaints about the pool of available men.
-All the good ones are taken
-The men my age want younger women
-Too much baggage with divorced guys
You get the picture.
Let me refute these top three concerns to help you see the proverbial glass of water as half full rather than half empty.
1) All the good ones are taken. What a silly generality.
Some women cheat on their husbands. It happens. Does that mean their husbands are no good? Not necessarily and once divorced, they become fair game again (after a year or so for emotional healing.) I found a man who was 39 and never married and I know plenty of women who snag confirmed bachelors who had just gotten tired of the run around.
There are plenty of good men out there if you will believe. Start seeing that glass half full and expect good men – that’s the upside of managing your expectations and this methodology produces!
2) Men my age want younger women.
OK – that’s true for some men and the bigger the age differential desired, the more likely those men will stay single and lonely. Don’t waste time worrying about men with their own unrealistic expectations and move on to find the good guys.
Plus, today, 30% of women over 40 are dating younger men! Well that improves the odds. You don’t have to be Demi Moore – my husband is four years younger and my friend Linda’s live-in boyfriend is 18 years younger!
3) Too much baggage with divorced guys.
Let those who are without “baggage” cast the first stone. So, you are totally baggage-free then? Yes some divorced men are broke from high alimony and child support payments and have impossible ex wives. But not ALL of them. Most move on to marry again. A man once married is far more likely to marry again and at least want a second chance at having a new relationship.
Try not to be so negative and start considering the world of abundant possibilities.

It’s literally raining single men, so put down that umbrella of defensiveness and check them out.  If you want to discover more attitudes that sabotage dating success – get the CD –  The Top 10 Attitudes that Sabotage Dating Success and How to Turn Them Around. It’s part of the package when you get the book MANifesting Mr. Right.

Dating can actually be fun if you let yourself enjoy it and approach the process with a positive outlook. People get married every day, whether it’s for the first time or the third. You could be next if you try a few of these Love Lessons and get out there to find the love you want and deserve.
Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

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