Dating Over 40: 8 Love Lessons for Hanukah – Lesson #4

This is day four of the 8 Love Lessons for Hanukah. The series leverages the miraculous energy of holiday to shed light on your love life, with eight simple lessons to attract love . You’ll find a new love lesson each day for a total of eight days so stop by to discover every single gift!

Love Lesson #4 – Flirt,  Act Friendly, Have Fun

Has it been a while since you flirted with a man? Do you remember what flirting is? Some women tell me they not only don’t know how to flirt, they aren’t sure they ever did know.
Flirting is so much easier than you think. There are three main components of basic flirting. When you catch someone’s eye who is looking at you, then
                                                                     1) Maintain brief eye contact 3 seconds tops
                                                                     2) Couple that with a smile
                                                                     3) Turn your head gracefully away.
                                                                     That’s it – flirting 101. 
You see the point to flirting is non-verbally communicate that you are safe to approach. In our society, most people today don’t get enough acknowledgment and when you catch someone looking at you and you return that with a smile – you are in fact acknowledging them. When you smile, they smile and everyone feels good. It’s an act of warmth which is rather rare today.
Once you connect this way with a man two-three times, that’s his non-verbal cue that you are approachable which is just what you want.
Now let’s say you smiled but you are really that interested. That’s OK too – because flirting and smiling is not a promise of anything more. It is what it is and what it is – is spontaneous FUN!
Of course flirting represents a much wider repertoire of actions and body language all to communicate interest and openness to men. That why some women seem like magnets – they are most likely master flirters. – This is a powerful skill and one that demonstrates a connection to your feminine allure. We’ll talk more about that in Love Lesson # 6.
Another part of this lesson is to act friendly. Maybe you are that way naturally or maybe you’ll need to work on it a bit. Either way, being friendly can pay off for sure.  The more approachable you are to men, the easier you make it for them to cross that room to strike up a conversation.
Nice guys often watch how you interact with other men first before risking rejection. You see, men don’t actually enjoy rejection any more than you do. So to hedge their bets – they wait to see how you react to other men. Being friendly is a very smart strategy.
Lastly, try to look like you are having fun. Even if the evening doesn’t meet your expectations, smile and pretend to be happy. Happy people are very attractive and when you are having fun, others will be magnetically drawn to you – they want to know what’s going on – they want in on the fun!
I have seen these simple tips work without any practice immediately. Many clients come back after a night of really applying these flirting basics  with tremendous and surprising results. You could be next so start smiling right now.
There’s more on flirting strategies in Chapter 9 of MANifesting Mr. Right.
Catch you tomorrow for Love Lesson #5
Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

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