Dating Over 40: 8 Love Lessons for Hanukah – Lesson #2

This is Day Two of the 8 Love Lessons for Hanukah. The series leverages the miraculous energy of holiday to shed light on your love life, with eight simple lessons to attract love . You’ll find a new love lesson each day for a total of eight days so stop by to discover every single gift!

Love Lesson #2 – Open Your Heart to Love

If you’ve been single for a while or deeply hurt in the past, your heart may no longer be open to love. Should this be the case, it’s time to take action! Having an open heart not only affects your love life or the possibility of a love life, but it can impact your availability for making new friendships as well.
Just this week I was talking to two clients who complained they didn’t have any single women friends and they didn’t want to take a class or something similar to meet any. They felt making new women friends wasn’t worthy of their time since in the past, the women tended to disappear once a man entered the picture. You’ve been there too right?

However, I pointed out that having such low expectations of people was probably attracting more of the same. When your heart has been shut down from several disappointments, that’s the energy we want to reverse.

There are a number of ways to remedy this shut-down. First, you can use visualization and symbology to start the process of opening again.  Close your eyes and get quiet and comfortable. Imagine a rose bud in your heart center. Begin breathing slowly, deeply and evenly, filling your lungs before exhaling fully.
The next step is to picture that tightly wrapped rose bud starting to unfold. One petal at a time. You may have to do this exercise over a period of days or weeks before you get the flower to totally blossom. That’s OK. The good news is, the more petals that open, the more your heart is open too.
A few other options to assist in this heart opening process include chanting, prayer, and singing happy songs. Sound silly?  Don’t let that fool you – having a closed heart is blatantly obvious in your body language. If you are unaware of this situation, you may be sending away potential prospects by non-verbally telegraphing your closed heart. Investing time in these simple, yet powerful exercises to open your heart will help you make the crucial shift to sending welcoming signals. And an open, warm heart is HIGHLY attractive.
You’ll find more techniques in MANifesting Mr. Right in Chapter 6 – Open Your Heart to Love.
Drop in tomorrow for Love Lesson #3
Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

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