Dating Over 40: 8 Love Lessons for Hanukah – Lesson #1

Hanukah is the Festival of Lights. Oversimplified, this Jewish holiday is based on the miracle of lamp oil (enough for just one day) lasting for eight days and nights, while awaiting a new supply.
Let’s use some of that miraculous energy to shed light on your love life, with eight simple lessons to attract love at the holidays or any time. You’ll find a new love lesson each day for eight days starting today so stop by to discover every single gift! (Hanukah actually started last night, so you sticklers out there, please forgive me for being off by one day.)

Love Lesson #1 – Know Who You Want as a Partner

So many people I talk to aren’t really sure what they want in a romantic partner. They have some vague idea of what sort of person might work best, but feel that they will know him when they meet him. OK, that might be true. But sometimes it can really help to define the personality characteristics that will work best.
I’m not talking about assets like a stock portfolio, a BMW or a high-powered job. What I am suggesting is becoming aware of personality aspects that you find attractive such as loving, kind, communicative, spontaneous, active, healthy, accepting, affectionate, etc. Making a list of what appeals to you is a great way to heighten your awareness of looking for the right man for you.
On the flip side, sometimes clients use this list of criteria as a means to stay single. If you over-define who you are seeking, then you effectively manage to cross most prospects off your list. Obviously this is not the intent.
Most women seem to fall into one category or the other. Only you know your own tendency. If you date any man who has the gumption to pursue you, it might be a good idea to better define the qualities that would suit you best. But if you think only the rarest of men could possibly measure up, then you might want to relax your criteria a bit. Catching on?

Stop by tomorrow for your next love lesson and have a great day!

Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

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