7 Ways To Be Fabulous And True To Yourself At The Same Time

Ready to be fabulous and shine before the world? Discover seven ways to be fabulous by living from your heart and honoring yourself.

Notions on Being Fabulous

be fabulousYou may have this idea that to be fabulous, you need to be someone you are not. That you need to put on “airs” or wear some kind of mask for the public.

You may have met or seen people that you thought were fabulous and wondered what the secret is to living life in this way. The fabulous people have money, travel in style and often are surrounded by lots of friends who all enjoy an amazing life. They take chances and still everything works out magically for them.

How can this be?

Perhaps you’ve even felt there’s no way you could ever be like the fabulous people. Maybe that kind of charisma feels impossible to grasp or too far away for you to ever tap into.

As a result, you let go, don’t even try or give it a second thought. The fabulous life is for other people, not you. Sound familiar?

You CAN Be Fabulous

Well here’s the good news – anyone can be fabulous! I kid you NOT! In fact, and you might want to sit down for this next bit, because the truth is, you are ALREADY FABULOUS.

Yes you are, right now. You have everything you could possibly need to be fabulous and live fabulously,

I Don’t FEEL Fabulous

Trouble is, you just don’t know it or see it or feel it. The fabulous you. And so you think it’s not possible or likely for you.

That is a MASSIVE mistake.

Why? It means you do not recognize your own fabulosity. Or see how amazing you are.

Perhaps you believe what others say about you. Or people who tell you not to bother because its too darn hard. Or it won’t happen for someone like you. Or you relate better and feel more comfortable with failure than success and satisfaction.

You might fear how others will react if you were fabulous. Worry that your family or friends won’t be happy for you or still like you. They might get jealous,  turn away, give you a hard time or no longer be there for you.

Maybe you are connected by your lack of fabulousness and don’t want to lose that connection.

Limiting Beliefs about Yourself

be fabulousThis idea that you’ll lose out by being fabulous is totally and completely false.

Thinking like this stems from incorrect limiting beliefs. These could be family related or something passed down from generations of ancestors. The limitations might come from the media, teachers, co-workers or even friends. However, none of this makes it true about you.

7 Ways to Be Fabulous

Here’s what I know for sure – if you are here on planet earth right now, you have come for a reason. And that reason is to learn about yourself and celebrate being YOU. Yup, you’ve already got what it takes to do that.

Below you’ll find nine ways to be fabulous, and still be true to yourself. You don’t have to sell out to be fabulous. And, you don’t need to do all nine methods, but a few could produce wonders!

You deserve to enjoy your fabulosity today and every day. Check out these simple suggestions.

1. Say “No” More Often

Are you the kind of woman who has trouble saying “No”? You have to be nice and help people. And appearing selfish is the very last thing you want. So, even if you don’t want to do whatever it is, you put everyone else’s needs before your own.

Imagine if you freed yourself up, saying “No” to 25% of the requests from friends,  co-workers, or even children. What would that be like? How much time and energy would that save that you could then attend to your own needs?

On an airplane, flight attendants always announce, “Please put on your own oxygen mask before you help your children.” The truth is, if you can’t take care of yourself first, you really can’t help anyone. You just end up drained and miserable, struggling with the littlest things.

Not so fabulous right?

When you can say, “I’d love to but, I just can’t do that right now” you establish a firm boundary that preserves your precious time. This is how you avoid getting stretched beyond reasonable limits and create time for YOU.

Learning to say “No” makes your fabulosity sky rocket!

2. Say “Yes” More Often

fabulous womanOn the other hand, there are definitely times when you have to say “yes” more often too. If you need a massage, say “yes”. If you want to find love, say “Yes” to a date. Depending on your natural tendencies (and you know who you are), it’s easy to say “No” and you do it all the time. which dramatically limits your potential.

When you can make the shift to start saying “Yes,” new opportunities and even worlds open to you. What is possible expands exponentially when you agree to try something new, meet a new person, go on a trip or try a new kind of yoga.

Go ahead, say “Yes” and watch your world come alive.

3. Listen to Your Heart

Do you know what your heart wants? What makes you the happiest? Some people love to dance, sing, pant or exercise. Others enjoy reading, movies or deep conversations about the Universe. What makes your heart sing?

If you aren’t sure, your first step is to FIND OUT.  Spend a little quality time with yourself and contemplate the workings of your heart. Think about what you spent time doing as a kid. Did you like to color, play kickball or enjoy your music lessons?

Make lists of subjects in school you liked, fun after school activities, and how how you spent your free time in your 20s. Next, think about what you might enjoy doing again – or variations of past pursuits.

Also, consider items on your bucket list. What haven’t gotten around to yet that creates a feeling of yearning and wishing you could do them?

Then, schedule at least one thing into your calendar every single week. The more play time and fun you plan, the more fabulous you become. This enriching time feeds your soul and your heart, so don’t avoid this one!

4. Keep Your Secrets

When you meet someone for the first time, let them see your best side. That’s how you make good friends or find true love.  You only have one chance to make a good first impression.

Yet, so many people blow a first meeting by revealing insecurities and past failures. Don’t do it! Keep your secrets. Like poker, you hold your cards close to the vest if you want to win. The same thing goes for dating and friendship.

In a job interview, would you tell a prospective employer what a jerk your current boss is or how he doesn’t treat you right? Not if you want the job!

There is a time to show your vulnerable underbelly, but not before you know a person is worthy of that private info. Especially in dating. Don’t talk about your ex, relationship drama,  health or money issues.

Instead, focus on what is going well and good about your life. Show your best side and let people get to know the real you first. Everyone has problems, but why shine a spotlight on them?

Spilling your troubles defines you and you are not defined by them! You are way too fabulous for that! It’s time you started acting like the fabulous woman you are. Keep your secrets to yourself please.

5. Love and Appreciate Yourself

woman jumping How often do you celebrate yourself? What I mean is taking time to be grateful for who you are. Saying things to yourself like, “I love myself and I love my life!”. Appreciating what is good about you just as you are.

Most women NEVER do this. Instead, they beat themselves up about all the things that went wrong or should have been better. This is not how to be fabulous! A fabulous women totally loves herself, recognizes her strengths, and speaks well of herself.

In addition, and this is super important, a fabulous woman knows how to FORGIVE HERSELF. Yes you are going to mess up and make mistakes. That doesn’t make you any less fabulous! And when you readily forgive yourself instead of giving yourself a hard time, you build confidence and a positive presence that is vital and strong.

To truly love yourself is to forgive yourself for what doesn’t go well and appreciate yourself for everything does. That’s how to be fabulous and shine your light for others to see and enjoy.

6. Acknowledge Others

As a fabulous woman, you show your appreciation for others and acknowledge them. Whether that means saying thank you for the small things or writing thank you notes for bigger events, you never miss the chance to say something positive.

You also highlight the good that others do in front of your team. Or maybe within your family. Taking action to encourage and support others, plus point out when something goes well is a surefire way to be fabulous.

So few people get enough positive feedback. You could make someone’s day or year and create a memory that sticks with them for a lifetime.  That’s no joke. This is a nurturing, kind-hearted way to use your feminine charm too.

7. Share Your Heart

fabulous womanA fabulous woman is truly thrilled for others when they have success or good things happen. You celebrate with others like that good fortune happened to you. This is sharing your heart with others.

It also includes doing nice things for people, giving compliments to strangers, and helping those who are less fortunate. Don’t give everything you have to others, then you aren’t taking care of yourself. You still need good boundaries girlfriend!

However, thinking of others and sharing your heart is part of how to be fabulous. Being real and authentic is another piece of this puzzle. When you connect with people from your heart, they know, feel and greatly appreciate it.

How to Be Fabulous

If you want to be fabulous and feel this calling, it boils down to practice. Your fabulosity emerges as you move through these steps, keeping the idea of being fabulous in your consciousness as much as possible. And the results are totally worth it!

I’m not suggesting you will always feel fabulous, but you can maintain a sense of overall well-being most of the time. And plenty of time you will shine like crazy when you incorporate these seven steps into your life.

I’m planning a program and am getting ready to announce it very soon called I Am Fabulous! Created to support you in recognizing your own fabulosity and how to be fabulous more of the time. It’s empowering and totally FUN! I can’t wait to share my methods with you – you are going to LOVE it!

Okay, your first step is just for today, remember how truly fabulous you are and live your day like it’s true – because IT IS!

If you want to learn how to raise your love vibe, all part of being fabulous, listen to this free audio program!

Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony, MSN.com, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.

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