On Monday, I shared three reasons younger men date older women. Here’s an additional four reasons that all make sense regarding the appeal of the "cougar."
Older women are more accomplished. Today many women have power jobs and make a boatload of ka-ching. And so, just like younger women who date older men, younger men are looking for the flip side of the traditional equation. And let’s face it, many of these "cougar-types" are looking for what older men have known for years. Dating younger will help keep you young and bring back the glow of youth. Sounds good to me!
Men have traditionally sought the company of younger women, also known as "arm candy." Now it’s your turn. If you want some candy, go get some honey.
The term for this classic psychological motivation was coined by our friend Dr. Sigmund Freud. The Oedipus complex is actually based on Greek mythology and a tragic play by Socrates. The briefest explanation – when a young seeks the love of his mother – but from another woman. Maybe he looks up to you. Maybe he appreciates your ability to nurture and the wisdom that only time can bring. Not so terrible really. It’s actually flattering to have someone look up to you. One of the best ways to learn life’s lessons is through a mentor and as you play the expert, you can enjoy the companionship of a younger man.
Let’s say you are a younger man who hasn’t had a lot of women. But you would like the short course and a teacher could really help. Bingo! Some younger men date older women simply to gain experience. What a service you are doing for the younger women who he’ll come in contact in his lifetime.
Many people enjoy the teacher/student relationship. Just keep it out of the real classroom and you’ll be safe for some fun (at least legally!) Plus, this type of relationship gives you a chance to be in charge which for some is really a kick. Why not show someone younger the ropes of romantic relationship and have fun through all the learning.
Last, but not least, is LOVE. Some younger men can’t help who they fall for. He saw you, was struck by your beauty and charm, and just fell head over heels. It happens. Really it does. Ask Aston Kutcher and Demi Moore, Katie Couric and Brooke Perlin, and so many others. It’s all the rage in Hollywood and for good reason. Because this May-December romance thing which was previously frowned upon and poo-pooed, has now become acceptable. Chemistry is something that cannot easily be explained. In addition, I say, let’s here it for those younger men who have the good sense to fall for an older woman! You have excellent taste.
Stop fretting about what this younger guy sees in you and enjoy the attention. You deserve every flattering, delicious moment, so sit back, count your blessings and go for it!
Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony, MSN.com, MORE.com, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.