Dating Over 40: 5 Big Reasons Why You Must Post a Photo on

If you are going to write up a profile and answer all the questions on or any other dating site, for goodness sake, please post a photo. I am constantly amazed at women who tell me they don’t want to put up a picture. Why not?

Well there are plenty of reasons. For example some women are afraid co-workers will see the photo and then every one will know they are dating. OK uh, if you’re single, chances are strong you might want to date. Why should this remain a secret? People still find it embarrassing to be single. yet, half the adult population IS SINGLE! Please try to get over this – there is nothing to be embarrassed about because everyone deserves a loving life partner.

But I can  tell you there are far more reasons to post your photo and here are five big ones:

1) Men are visual and a photo will help them decide if you are attractive and worth chasing. Come on, women today are almost as visual as the men. Perhaps some are more flexible about a man’s attractiveness, but I know plenty of women who click and click looking for a man with hair right? Get over the idea that men select you by your looks. Of course that’s how they select you!  They have to be attracted – that’s what the photo is for. And there is no way to get around this.

2) If you want to send the photo upon request, a man will still see your picture right? He may still reject you based on your looks. So why not skip this time consuming step and just post the darn thing?

3) I had a client who refused to post her photo. She had 162 men look at her profile and contact her in a five month period. Once I convinced her to post her picture, she had 232 look at her in just 5 days. If you’re playing the odds, bet on the photo to pull in the most men.

4) Internet dating is a numbers game. Don’t you want the highest return on the hard work you did putting together your profile? Of course you do! So post that picture and stop putting road blocks in your path.

5) Writing a good profile is not that easy. Many people sound the same because they like the movies or dining out. For some, it’s difficult to describe themselves and really get across who they are. A written profile is often flat and without dimension for these reasons. Although I can help with tips or by writing your profile for you – just post that picture – it’s worth 1,000 words!

I hope you are starting to turn around on this no photo phobia.

Honestly, if you’re not going to post your photo, you might as well not post the profile either. No photo on your Internet dating profile is like a day without sunshine or a burger without ketchup or tuna fish without Hellman’s, or donuts without coffee, or salsa without tortilla chips Gee I must be hungry.. Sorry for the clichés but they work. And so do the photos – so post one right now!





Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony,, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.

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