Dating Over 40: Small Course Corrections on Your Dating Journey

This poem by Rumi was sent to me by a woman who asked a question on the blog which I answered.

Your hand opens and closes and opens and closes.
If it were always a fist or always stretched open,
you would be paralyzed.
Your deepest presence is in every small contracting and expanding
the two as beautifully balanced and coordinated as birds wings.

I find these words very thought provoking. The analogy reminds me of sailing. The boat has a  location it is aiming for. But the actual path requires tacking. Tacking puts the boat in the direction of the wind and then requires constant adjustment as the boat moves back and forth to reach its destination.

The course is not direct or straight. There is a lot of back and forth and adjusting as the wind blows and resistance is met. But with determination, consistency and continuous course corections, the destination is reached. Sounds a lot like the path taken to achieve any goal in life doesn’t it?

So if your journey to find love takes you off course, or you feel like it’s not direct enough, remember this Rumi poem or the sailing example. You probably just need a minor course correcton to get you back on track. Small moves are really all it takes.


What small move can you take today to find and/or attract love?

Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

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