If you’re dating after 50, flirting will help you connect with men and find true love. Read on to learn how easy and fun flirting really is!
Women Dating After 50 Feel Funny about Flirting
There is a tremendous misconception about falling in love in mid life. Somehow, many women get think that the process suddenly takes on a more mature or adult-like manner. Being over 50, the mistake is that dating is more straightforward, direct, and less like when you were a teen. As a love and dating coach for women , all I can say is – what NONSENSE!
Falling in love is exciting. What makes it so wonderful is the incredible youthful spirit that accompanies new love and that is true for ANY AGE. When you are dating, whether you are 16 or 60, you still feel like a teenager. You’ll experience the same excitement of wondering about every step as you did when you were young.
Typical Questions on Your Mind:
- When will he call again?
- When will our next date be?
- When will he kiss me?
- Does he like me?
- What should I wear?
- Did he tell anyone about me?
- And the list goes on…
Now I ask you, is this something you really want to miss just because you are dating over 50? I hope you said “No”. Frankly, there’s just no way around it unless you decide to date men that you aren’t attracted to – that could help temper the excitement I suppose. Ha ha!
Why Should I Flirt?
See, flirting is a fun and light-hearted way to interact with men. It doesn’t work as well when you have a specific agenda – i.e. a particular man you hope to connect with. You can try it and it might work. But that’s not the main purpose.
The purpose of flirting is to use your body language and non-verbal communication to encourage men to risk approaching and talking to you. When flirting is done well, you are silently telegraphing that you are open and available.
Most men don’t enjoy rejection, so they want to see some signs of interest from you before they walk over. It’s unpleasant when a man gets rudely shut down by a woman, so they actually try to avoid this. Who wouldn’t?
Appear More Approachable
So, when you flirt, it’s giving men the sign that you’re safe to approach. Not only that, but when you are flirty and friendly to men in a public place, you’ll discover that more than one man has noticed you.
Being kind and open to one man often encourages others to approach you as well. That is exactly what you want when dating after 50! (Or at any age really.) Finding love can often be a numbers game which is why you WANT to meet plenty of potential partners.
How Do I Flirt?
Here’s the best part about flirting – it’s so easy! These are my four basic flirting tips that work like a charm, every time!
When you smile, you let others know you are a happy, pleasant person who is easy to approach. That’s exactly what you want when you are dating after 50.
2. Hold Eye Contact Briefly
Just 2-3 seconds is all you need for a good flirting exchange. Any longer and you might start an Alpha dog stare down which is considered aggressive. So don’t hold his gaze too long to keep it light.
3. Be Friendly
I know you’re busy, but it can’t hurt to simply say, “Hello” as you pass by men on the street or on the way to work. The more pleasant interactions you have, the better your chances for finding love again. Most women aren’t very friendly, so this is a surefire way to stand out!
4. Appear to Have Fun
You don’t need to be the life of the party, but when you are enjoying yourself, you are far more attractive. Let’s face it, when fun is around, others want in on it. This is how to attract positive attention and get noticed.
Flirting Is Fun!
These tips seem so simple, you might be thinking, “Come on Ronnie, do these tips really work?” My answer is, “Oh yeah – they sure do!
Any woman can put these techniques to work and have success immediately to get more male attention. My clients who use these simple flirting tips often have results on the first try and start interacting with a lot more men.
There is one thing that’s really important to keep in mind if you’re going to start flirting to get more the male attention than you are getting. If a man approaches who you aren’t interested, you cannot be flippant or rude to send him away.
Now that you have more male attention, other men are watching you! So, when dating after 50 or anytime, you need to be more thoughtful about how you turn men away. Be kind please.
More Than One Man Has Noticed You
If you are mean to one guy in a public place, others who are observing you before approaching won’t be willing to take a chance on you. Men don’t like to be rejected any more than you do.
Once you start flirting, you’re going to have to learn how to turn men away with grace or your efforts will be wasted. The truth is, the quality men are often not the first to approach but tend to hang back and observe you for a while
Finding Love After 50 is Totally Possible!
Now that you are dating after 50 and hope to find love again, know that there’s never been a better time to be single in midlife. So many adult are single.
Get out to use your new found flirting skills and enjoy the male attention you are sure to receive. When you’re hot, you’re hot and today, 50 is HOT!
Make the most of what you’ve got girlfriends. Love after 50 is real and can be yours if you take steps today to mingle, flirt and meet men.
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To learn more about how to flirt with style check out my online program called Flirt School!