Learn the 13 shocking signs he just wants sex, so you know what to watch for to side step men like this. It’s obvious once you know what to look for.
What If He Only Wants to Sleep with You?
Are there signs he just wants sex? Why do men lie? If they are not into you for more than just a date, why lie and tell you they like you or act as if they like you.
Why do they discuss future vacations together and talk about going out, then Ghost after they’ve been dating you for 2 months? Is it that hard to act normal?
If he is not interested in more than just sex, why doesn’t he act so? Do guys never think about being honest? Do we as women literally have to ask them, “OK, are you really interested in me?”
Please help me understand because I am often heartbroken and left feeling so sad and very confused.
Nath from Chicago”
Understanding Men And Their Games
You asked good questions and I am going to answer each one, so you understand what is going on with men. I know this can be emotionally crushing, but there is a way to recognize a player faster. Once you know, then you can avoid these predators with ease.
When you are a straightforward woman looking for love, you want to trust and believe men. Yet, one disappointment and heartbreak after another makes it harder and harder.
I understand how you feel, and I went through this myself when I was dating and looking for love before meeting the man who became my husband.
Having met plenty of these types, I LEARNED how to catch on quickly and that made all the difference. I stopped wasting time on a man who showed signs he just wants sex and moved on to meet other men who had more potential.
Why Do Men Lie And Act Interested?
First, keep in mind not all men lie or pretend to be interested. Let’s think about this from a man’s perspective to better understand what’s really going on.
If a man just wants sex and told you that, would you go for it? No, of course not! Men know most women don’t want to jump into bed – they prefer to get to know a guy a first.
So, that’s why some men lie. They do this to get their needs met the only way they know how. The same thing applies for talking about the future and vacations, etc.
This kind of conversation is designed to make him look like he’s got long-term intentions about you, so you trust him and then…sleep with him.
Why Do Men Ghost?
Most men hate emotional scenes and will do whatever is necessary to avoid a big blow up. That’s why they stop contacting you (aka ghost) rather than breakup directly. Nothing new – this has been going on forever. A lot of guys don’t want to cause you pain face-to-face, but know they have to move on, so they drop out of sight.
Some experts say men are cowardly to avoid confrontation. Another way to look at this is they have a different threshold for emotions vs. women. That’s why most men would rather shut down a difficult conversation or walk away, rather than talk it through.
The confrontation is often too much for a man. And that’s one way to know you found a good man – when he’s willing to discuss things calmly.
Why Can’t You Ask Him Directly?
Last but not least, you CANNOT ask a man directly if he likes you. Why not? Because how will you know if he’s telling the truth? It’s a pointless question. Again, this is confrontational and not the way to engage with men.
The Real Problem
Here’s the real problem – these are NOT THE RIGHT QUESTIONS! While you want to know if a man is lying and the signs he just wants sex, that’s not the best way to make decisions.
Instead, focus on discovering if he QUALIFIES to be your man.
Does he pursue you consistently, requesting weekly dates, calling between dates and texting? Is he interested in getting to know you or does he only talk about himself? Does he try to please you and find out what you like?
These are signs of a man who has a genuine interest and potential for a loving relationship. When a man asks you out consistently, shows that he cares, does nice things for you, stays in touch and becomes someone you can count on – that’s how you know he is worthy of your love.
How To Spot A Man Who Just Wants Sex
Here are the 13 signs he just wants sex:
- He talks about your looks from the moment you meet.
- He brings up sex within the first couple of dates.
- He’s a super flirt, very charming and seems like a player.
- He wants to sext and asks for pictures.
- He only communicates (text, email, phone) when he’s wants a booty call.
- He says he’s not looking for a relationship but will get to know you.
- You don’t go out on dates and have sex every time you see him.
- He’s got excuses for why he can’t spend time with your friends.
- He never spends the night.
- He’s angry if you don’t hop in the sack.
- He’s not much for foreplay.
- You don’t know much about him and your conversations are superficial.
- You haven’t met his friends.
These Are The Signs He Just Wants Sex
If you see more than one of these signs, accept the fact this guy is most likely only into you for the sex. And now that you know the 13 signs, be smart and heed this warning.
There’s nothing wrong with casual sex if you protect yourself and agree to participate. It can be fun, you might learn something new and it’s a great stress reliever. But keep your eyes open and be smart.
On the other hand, if you are looking for something more serious and lasting, hold off on sex until you see if he qualifies as a romantic partner and meets your standards. This is how you value yourself and don’t get sucked into casual relationships, dreaming of something more.
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