Looking for signs he likes you after the first date? Here are five things to watch for to know if you can expect to see him again.
How to Tell If a First Date Went Well
Finally, you’re on a date with a man you like! Even better, you get the distinct feeling he likes you too. But, how can you know for sure? What are the signs he likes you after the first date?
There are plenty of people who offer dating advice on this subject. I have seen a lot that in this expert’s opinion, does not hold water. The most common things are the ones that might just fool you. And that could be what your date had in mind to get you into the sack quickly.
Don’t Be Fooled By Sweet Talk
There are a few telltale signs that a guy is into you. However, there are others that sound good, yet don’t mean much. For example, if he says he hasn’t met a woman like you in a long time, no question that’s a nice compliment. But, it could have absolutely no meaning beyond flattery.
Don’t be fooled if your date says, “I’ll call you,” at the end of the night. Many men feel compelled to say this because they don’t know another way to end the date. Confusing as this might be, don’t put stock in this phrase since it’s actually most often a sign that he WON’T call.
Another comment that gives you a false sense of security that a man is into you, is if he talks about future plans. Future fantasizing can be fun for a man who is a romantic at heart. The proof is in the pudding though – men who wax on about all the things you could do together some day rarely follow through.
Seduction vs. Genuine Interest
Some men skilled in the art of seduction will share a good deal of personal information, hoping you’ll feel safe with him as a result. Women often tell me how a date revealed intimate details about his life and they thought this was a good sign. Why would a man do this if he didn’t feel really comfortable?
It’s an old trick and often works too. A man will draw you in with his story to gain sympathy and hope you’ll let down your guard. Then he can swoop in, so he can get you into bed that night. Many women throw caution to the wind with a man like this as they get swept off their feet. Don’t be fooled by this technique.
What should you look for in a man? Well, that’s really a blog post in itself! This post will help you think about how to find a man with traits you like and who is potentially compatible at the same time.
Signs He Likes You After The First Date
So, what are the things to watch for so know you’ll see him again? Here are the five that I trust as positive indicators he wants more of you.
1. Calls the Next Day to Say He Had a Good Time
If your date picks up the phone to tell you he had a good time, this is a strong signal you will see him again. Texting is easy and lazy. He could text you and then 10 more women. But, he’s not likely to CALL 10 women. Not at all.
So, if he calls and chats with you the day after your first date, you may have him on the hook girlfriend.
2. Strong Eye Contact
If your date gazes into your eyes for a good part of your time together, he may be signaling serious interest. Consistent eye contact shows his comfort with you and a desire to know more. Sometimes this might border on staring, so don’t be too surprised, but it’s not a bad thing. (Unless he’s staring at body parts and not into your eyes.)
And if you happen to notice that his pupils are dilated, it can be a biological response pointing to deep attraction (or it’s too dark in the room – haha!)
3. He Leans Towards You
When a man is genuinely interested in what you have to say, he LEANS IN to be sure he can hear you. This is typical body language that has been proved through tons of social research and you can bank on it.
When a person is fully engaged in the conversation, they want to get closer. Bingo – another of the signs he likes you after the first date.
4. Laughs a Lot
If you are truly building rapport, he’ll laugh easily and smile a lot. This might seem like a no brainer, but you’d be surprised. Sometimes your date will smile some of the time but look off into space, around the room or down at the table if he’s not that comfortable.
When you’re engaged in a conversation and things are going well, there will be a good dose of laughter and a smile on his face for the majority of the time.
5. Asks for Another Date
Yup, one of the surefire signs he likes you after the first date is that he asks for a second date while he’s still with you! He might say he wants to see you again or my personal favorite, asks when you are free.
My husband asked me at the end of our first date if he could see me again when he walked me to my car. Of course I said, “Yes!” He gave me a quick kiss and started to walk away to his car across the parking lot.
Then much to my surprise and delight, he turned back and ask, “Well, when are you available?” It still makes my heart go pitter-patter.
This is the strongest of the signs he likes you after the first date. Nothing like knowing you’ve got a second date lined up to feel like you are on your way to getting to know him.
Your Next Move
Now that you know the five signs he likes you after the first date, what should you do next? Absolutely NOTHING! That’s right. Leave the ball in his court and follow his lead. Let him call you and suggest a date.
Don’t feel tempted based on your good rapport to check in, reach out, text about your day or call him. Let him do all that which is the only way you’ll ever know if his interest is building or has dissipated.
When you let a man lead during the initial dating phase, you don’t risk crowding him, pushing him beyond his comfort zone, invading his privacy, rushing him and most importantly turning him off. Read this post for more about letting the man lead.
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