Seeing signs he likes you but doesn’t want a relationship? It can be so confusing! Here’s how to know for sure if the man you’re dating is wasting your time or truly interested.
You watch all the signs and read into situations to interpret what you think they mean. Wracking your brain, you read a bunch of articles on the web. Feeling frustrated and at your wit’s end, you drive yourself (and potentially your friends too) CRAZY!
But here’s what you really need to know. You don’t need to be a mind reader to discover if he’s serious about you. Instead, understanding where he stands is not about what he THINKS as much as WHAT HE DOES. For the most part, a man’s actions tell you everything you really need to know.
When A Man Likes You But, Doesn’t Want A Relationship
I’ve uncovered 17 signs he likes you but doesn’t want a relationship and I’m sure there are even more. If you read through these, you’ll know what to look for or how to read the signs he is sending. So, read through the list and if you have more than one of these situations going on, it’s time to get real about this guy and realize he’s probably not “The One” for you.
1. He Texts But Doesn’t Ask You Out
Some men love to text or they call and talk on the phone for hours. Yet, they never get around to asking you out. Or they go on one or two dates then revert to the phone.
This type of thing is usually a sign that a man wants attention and maybe emotional support, but not the responsibility or expectations that come from a true relationship. He’ll take what he can get from you, but never give you what you need. The solution – STOP COMMUNICATING.
2. He Asks You Out But Leaves It Vague
After some texting or talking, he finishes up with, “Let’s get together this weekend.” But he doesn’t nail down a plan. What is this about? He might enjoy texting or talking with you but doesn’t want or need anything more from you. Or he’s stringing you along while he’s waiting to see who else might be free before committing to a date.
3. He Talks About The Future But Puts Off Plans
Some guys love to talk about the future. They bring it up even if you don’t, which is why you think it has MEANING. Truth is, future talk means nothing and could just be his fantasy. Or the idea feels good in the moment. You know this because he doesn’t follow through with plans. He might actually say he can’t make plans now because he’s too busy or has things to straighten out first.
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4. He Doesn’t Introduce You To Friends Or Family
When a man is serious about you, he will slowly introduce you to some of his friends and then his family. It could take longer for family – maybe up to three months. (For children it might take up to 6 months which is perfectly acceptable.) Usually within the first two months he will introduce you to SOMEONE. So, if he’s keeping you a secret and not getting you to meet his peeps, he doesn’t want a real relationship.
5. He Won’t Define The Relationship
If you’ve been seeing a man longer than three months and he refuses to define the relationship, that is NOT a good sign. A man who is serious wants to claim you as his and give you the “Girlfriend” title. This is one of those telltale signs he likes you, but doesn’t want a relationship.
6. He Disappears But Comes Back
This guy is either texting like crazy or completely silent. He shows up, interacts with you and maybe goes on a date or two, and then he’s gone again. What is up with that? He may have intimacy issues, be dating other women or doesn’t want anything serious to develop. A man who is on and off again is NOT the right man because you need consistency for a healthy, lasting love.
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7. He’s Too Busy To See You
Perhaps he says he likes you and you are the one for him or maybe he’s not saying anything except that he’s too busy to see you. He can’t make plans right now because of his job, his boss, his crazy ex, his family, etc. If he puts you off, that’s a sign he doesn’t want a relationship with you.
8. He’s Friendly When He Bumps Into You
This guy is SO happy to see you when he bumps into you at a party or around town. He sticks by your side as if he really likes you. So, you would think he’d contact you after. But nope, he doesn’t connect.
This is extremely confusing because his actions when he sees you are different than when he’s out of touch. Just keep in mind that a man who does nothing to see you does NOT want a relationship with YOU.
9. He Won’t Make It Official
You’ve been seeing this man for several months, but he won’t make it official. He prefers to just go along as things are and doesn’t want to rock the boat. It’s good the way it is, right? Not if he’s serious about you. That’s a sure sign he doesn’t like you enough to take things to the next level.
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10. He Says He Misses You, But Does Nothing To See You
Some guys just know what to say to keep you hanging on and this is a perfect example. If he says he misses you, but makes no attempts to see you, it’s complete bullsh*t. Don’t fall for this and believe his empty words. If he really meant it, he’d do what it takes to spend time with you. No excuses!
11. He Refuses To Be Exclusive Or Take Down His Profile
Pay attention to this – it’s one of the biggest signs he likes you, but doesn’t want a relationship. When a man is unwilling to take down his profile for any reason, he’s letting you know he’s not going to be exclusive. This is a man who still wants to play the field and is not interested in monogamy. The same thing goes for a man who is unwilling to agree to exclusivity.
12. He Said Doesn’t Want A Relationship
A lot of men will often come right out and TELL you they don’t want a relationship or aren’t looking for anything serious. When a man says either one of these phrases, BELIEVE HIM! Many women tend to ignore this because he couples this comment with, “But I’d like to get to know you and see where it goes.” That’s the sign of a man who is non-committal and just wants something casual.
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13. He Has Problems To Work Out
You might meet a great guy who has so many of the qualities you want. Too bad he has problems that are getting in the way. He’s unemployed or has a difficult boss and has to work all the time. He’s got a crazy ex and has to carefully manage her and the kids. Perhaps he has health issues that he blames for not being able to get together.
Whatever his problems are, they become your problems if you let them. Yet, last time I checked, you didn’t need more problems! If you meet a guy who is wonderful, but he has issues dragging him down, he’s not ready for a relationship with you. Let go and move on if you want a good relationship. This is not the same as if you were in love for years and a problem cropped up – that’s completely different.
14. He Cancels Frequently
The guy you are seeing talks a good game and makes plans, but often cancels. Keep in mind it’s not the making of the plan that counts, it’s the follow through. Whether he means well or not, no one cancels that often without it being some kind of game. Move on.
15. He Avoids Talking Things Over With You
An issue crops up with the man you’re dating. You try to talk about it and let him know how you feel, but he will not discuss it. That’s one of the signs he likes you but doesn’t want a relationship. You cannot maintain a healthy relationship if you cannot communicate or talk things through.
This is how you get stuck with an impossible man where everything is his way or the highway. Don’t let it happen to you. If he’s unwilling to talk or inflexible, walk away and find a better man who is relationship-oriented
16. You Don’t Go On Real Dates
This man seems sweet, but for a number of reasons you never go on real date. He’s happy to hang out with you at your place. He might bring over a pizza or take out. He’ll watch a movie or sit by the fire – it’s all very romantic.
The problem is, you never go out or on a real date. He doesn’t take you to dinner like most men. He doesn’t want to be out in public with you. Ahhh, there’s one of the biggest signs he likes you but doesn’t want a relationship. That’s because he’s already in one! My bet is this guy is cheating on a woman and CAN’T be seen with you or he’ll get caught. Run, don’t walk, away from this guy no matter how much you love him.
17. He’s Not Curious About You Or Your Life
Last of the 17 signs he likes you but doesn’t want a relationship, is that he’s not at all curious about your life. He doesn’t ask many questions. He doesn’t remember some big event in your life and wants to know how it went.
He’s not boring, it’s just that his main interest is himself. So, if you’re happy with everything being about him and being in a one-way relationship with a narcissist, that’s your choice. My dating advice is to dump him and find a better man for a loving relationship that works for you both.
Signs He Likes You But Doesn’t Want A Relationship
Now that you know what to look for regarding how he doesn’t want relationship, let me give you a super quick run-down on the signs he DOES want a relationship.
- He takes you on a real date at least once a week
- He communicates in between, texting and at least one phone call
- After 4-6 weeks he starts introducing you to his buddies and siblings
- Within three months you go on a weekend away
- Slowly, he starts to discuss his life decisions with you
- Your man asks how you are and is very interested in your happiness and life
- You love how he does nice things for you
- He expresses how he feels although it might take time to say the word LOVE
- You can count on him
- He keeps his promises
- You trust him
- You feel comfortable with him and can be yourself
- Your friends like him
- He accepts you for who you are and is proud to be with you and show you off
- Thankfully, he’s happy to help when you ask
- He agrees to or asks you to be in an exclusive relationship
Wishing you love!
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