It drives you crazy when he doesn’t call for days, but what can you do about it? Here’s the insight you need and some help with understanding men.
There’s nothing more frustrating than waiting for a man to call. He said he would call, so why isn’t he doing it? Why would he say he’d call if he didn’t mean it?
Maybe you had a great date and you know he had a good time too. This is what makes it so hard to understand why he hasn’t called to ask you out again. Did he get sick, start seeing other women, or get busy with work? What is keeping him from connecting again?
The worst thing is when you begin worrying that you did something wrong. You review every detail looking for what you could have said or done to turn him off or send him on his way without meaning to. You feel sick for not knowing what happened or having bad luck with men.
So what is really going on when a guy doesn’t call for days? Here are six reasons why your phone is not ringing.
1) He’s Actually Busy
Sometimes a man gets buried in a huge project and simply forgets to call. While it does happen, this is not such a good excuse because being distracted could indicate you are not his priority or he doesn’t like you enough to keep you top-of-mind.
2) He’s Dating Other Women
When you first meet a new guy, expect him to be dating other women. Don’t assume he’s only seeing you until he suggests exclusivity. He’s not calling back quickly because he’s got a hot date with someone else.
If you’ve only had a date or two its not that big a deal. But if you’ve been seeing him for weeks and he doesn’t call when he says he will, he’s letting you know he’s not a man of his word and not worried about hurting your feelings or making you angry. Not a man who is serious about getting to know you.
3) He Knows You’re Not the One
Even if a man is attracted to you and has a great time, that doesn’t mean he wants to see you again. He might have decided you are not the one for him which is why he doesn’t call back for days.
There’s no way to know why since you might remind him of an ex, talk too much or not enough, be too thin or heavy, short or tall, etc. Don’t bother trying to figure this out. Just do your best to accept it.
4) He Likes Being Single
No matter what a great catch you are, he just doesn’t want to get involved. He doesn’t want to get serious, have any strings attached or allow you to have any expectations of him. He’s not ready for a relationship so a date here or there is perfectly fine, but nothing consistent appeals to him. Be aware – men do not change their minds about this.
5) He’s Back with His Ex
This happened to me. I had two great dates with a guy and some hot kissing. Then I heard nothing from him – crickets. Days turned into weeks and I was puzzled and distraught. I asked the mutual friend who set us up if she knew anything. Yes, turns out he got back with his ex and there’s no competing with an previous love.
6) He Has a Different Agenda
This guy is actually respectful because even though he disappeared, he did so because he knew you wanted more than he could offer. So he didn’t call again even though he could have strung you along for a while. Be grateful – when he doesn’t call for days this could be the reason. He chose not to waste your time.
Do Not Call Him!
Most women think the simple solution is to simply contact him. If you are thinking of texting or calling to see if he’s OK, find out what happened, or nudge him a little to get him to call DON’T DO IT! Instead of reaching out, read this post on why calling his is NOT your next step to finding love.
Hold your head high, maintain your dignity and do not chase any man. He knows how to reach you if he wants to. So if he’s not calling you remind yourself that he simply can’t be the right man for you. The right man for you would be calling, asking you out, trying to impress and win you over so you can be all his.
This is what quality men do. They know what to do and do not hesitate. Good men take the lead and pursue you, call in advance to ask you out and plan fun dates. There are plenty of men who still date in a traditional manner regardless of their age.
So do not accept poor treatment or let yourself get attached to a man who is not consistent in his pursuit of you. Don’t accept his excuses of being too busy or putting you off into the future. A quality man finds the time to see you because it’s important to him.
When He Doesn’t Call for Days
So now you know at least six reasons when he doesn’t call for days what that is about. I’m sure there are many more, but you get the idea. It usually has NOTHING to do with YOU. So stop beating yourself up about it and wondering what happened. Let it go into the pile of life mysteries and go find another guy to date.