You’ll Find Love When You Stop Thinking Every Man Is Frankenstein
I know how hard it can be to find love with a good man. I understand when women complain to me that the men out there are terrible. They just want one thing. The lie and cheat. They scam. All the good ones are taken and what’s left are scary monsters like Frankenstein (OK, Halloween is on my mind.)
I walked in your shoes being a single woman over 40. But I was lucky. I had access to so methods that helped me open my mind and turn my negative thinking around.
One of the biggest challenges I faced was believing a good man was out there for me and I could find love. Let me tell you I worked at it. I used every exercise and mind trick I knew to shift this pattern that surely would have crippled my search for love.
AND I DID IT! Not only did I manage to keep an open mind about the men I met and stay positive during the dating journey, but I also met an adorable man and we’ve been happily married to for 16 years.
Yes, it’s worth the effort! I know you can find love to. Heck if I did it, any woman can! Here are three empowering mind exercises to help you find more good men out there and skip over those scary monsters.
1. Practice Looking for the Good in Men
When you notice men walking past you on the street, instead of ignoring them or internally criticizing them, take a moment to wonder to yourself, “Hey, why does that man’s girlfriend/wife love him? What does he have to offer his woman? What does he do to make her feel special?”
This is a very powerful method to shift your thinking and does take some practice. Don’t feel bad if you quickly fall back to thinking he’s not dressed well, or is losing his hair, or whatever you might usually think. It’s normal that making this shift in thought process will take time. So commit to trying this exercise and be gentle with yourself as you start to notice all the negativity that might come up when you try to think positively.
2. Smile at One New Man Every Day
That means you will need to look up, face forward and think about your surroundings to notice a man to smile at. It could be as easy as catching on to who is smiling at you and just returning the favor 🙂
Many women are totally task-focused and in your own world as you hurry to get stuff done. So you don’t even notice a man looking at you or smiling. Or your normal instinct is to look away as fast as possible because you rather not engage. Neither of these instincts will help you connect with good men.
You cannot imagine the positive changes that happen when I convince a client to smile at men. Results are consistently remarkable!
3. Notice Happy Couples
You might think this is counterproductive to notice happy couples. They have what you want and that will make you envy them and feel bad. But look at this another way. Once you see there are happy couples in the world you’ll realize if they can find love, you can too! You are no different than other people and you are as worthy as anyone else.
When you spot happy couples, leverage their happy energy by saying to yourself, “Love does exist! I want what they have!” This is not at all like envy or jealousy. It’s a higher level where you lift your own energy to the level of your desire. Your desire is for love and that is a higher vibration. Seeing happy couples can help you lift your energy to be like that right now.
According to the Law of Attraction, like attracts like. So when you lift your energy to the level of happy couples in love – you are now like the energy you want to attract! Bingo that’s what makes you more magnetic to find love.
Yes, You Can Make This Work for You!
Shift your mind away from negative chatter that men are scary monsters this Halloween or any time. GOOD MEN ARE OUT THERE. When you believe that and start to notice men, your chance to find love skyrockets!
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