If you want to find love in 2016, here are my top 10 New Year’s Resolutions for dating. As a dating coach for women over 40, these are the kinds of tips I share with my clients to help them find love faster.
1. I am “All In” and Fully Committed
If you want to find love in 2016, here’s the #1 dating strategy to follow: GET COMMITTED! That’s right – you need to be all in if you want to connect with the right man. No one ever said finding a lasting relationship was going to be easy. You are going to have rough patches. But when you are committed, you just keep moving. You know the end goal of love is worth the effort and you won’t let anything get in the way of achieving your vision. Wahoo – that’s awesome!
2. I Will Meet at Least One New Man Every Week
Some women think this is absurd because they don’t think that many single men exist. But dating is a numbers game and there are loads of single guys out there – if you know where to look. If you don’t aim to meet one man a week, you will not meet enough prospects to find the right one for you.
3. I Will Notice Men Around Me
Yes, men are everywhere, but most single women somehow fail to notice them. I call this “Raising Your Antennae” which is essential. Otherwise you might not flirt because who is looking right? But single men are all around you and it’s time you start to become aware of that important fact. Now, let’s say you work at an elementary school and most teachers are women. I get that. But don’t you go to the store, cleaners, and pump gas? Men are all around you no matter what you do so open those eyes please!
4. I Will Flirt and Rely on My Feminine Charm
So, you don’t flirt, or worse, don’t remember what flirting is? Horrors! Flirting is a fun practice in which you use body language to telegraph your openness and interest in meeting men. It may sound foolish, but a little smile and brief eye contact goes along way to encourage a man to walk over and meet you. This is vital for singles events. You want men to find you approachable, and flirting is the answer. Be friendly, willing to engage, smile and seem happy even if you have to fake it. Think of flirting as being hospitable. Women who do this meet 10 times more men, so get to it girlfriend.
5. I Will Give More Types of Men a Chance
One of the biggest challenges single women over 40 face is seeking a specific type of person. I encourage them to “cast a wider net” to date a variety of men. When you have a type, that person embodies the qualities you adore AS WELL AS the characteristics that cause these relationships to END. Think back to all the guys you’ve dated who were exactly your type…where are they now? Chances are, if you get past your type, you’ll find a better partner for lasting love.
6. I Will Look for What IS GOOD in Men
It’s so easy to find fault with your dates. The challenge I ask of my dating coaching clients is for them to find what IS GOOD about their dates. When you start to notice the good in people, you will be more open, easier to be with, more fun and far more approachable and attractive to the opposite sex. There is a lot of good in the single people out there, even if that person isn’t right for you. Shift your perspective and discover how it lightens your spirit and gives you a more positive attitude.
7. I Will Not “Bash” Men for Fun with Friends
I work with my dating coaching clients to help them understand this universal principle. When you talk badly about the opposite sex, you send out negative vibes. Oh yes, men and women can tell when you have a negative attitude about them as a group. It’s like a gray cloud that hangs over your head making you far less attractive. I know this can be fun with friends, but I advise you to stop doing it. You’ll thank me when you notice how many more positive interactions you have with people.
8. I Will Learn about Online Dating to Give It a Real Chance
I know you’ve tried online dating and hated it. You met awful men or scammers. Men lied about their age or they all want younger women. Get over it! Online dating is the #1 way singles over 50 meet and #2 for the over 40 crowd. My bet is you didn’t do anything to learn about what works online and just did whatever you thought would work. Or you listened to girlfriends who haven’t had success either. Forget that – learn from experts! Check out my Sizzle vs. Fizzle Online Home Study Course to make the most of this method to meet known singles.
9. I Will Recover Faster from Dating Disappointments
So a man stood you up. That stinks but don’t let it rock your world. You are not the only woman who has been stood up. Men often don’t follow through, disappear after a fun night or do a myriad of other things that could set you off. However, when you waste time reeling from each infraction, you waste good man-hunting time. Don’t give away your power to a man you barely know by letting him interfere with your main goal for 2016. Shake it off and adopt a more empowering mindset which is “Who’s next?” That will help you stay positive and optimistic about the next man you’ll meet.
10. I Will Remember Love Is My DESTINY
Yes, that’s right – love is your destiny. If you truly want to find love and a lasting relationship for 2016, then know deep within that there are no other options. This is the belief system of a woman who is truly committed. This concept will keep you going. It worked for me and it has worked for countless of my successful women clients. Get on board knowing this is a fact! Love is your destiny and your highest path for this lifetime.
Take on these 10 Resolutions to Find Love in 2016 with gusto and go for it! I have total faith in your ability to make this your reality. Or take my 6-part Teleclass Find Love Now starting Monday, January 11 at 8pm est