It’s time to find out how to attract men if you are ready to date and find love again! You can learn a lot from one of my favorite fem fatales – Mae West, a sassy movie star from the 1930’s and 40’s who said,
“Look your best – who said love is blind?”
When I help clients with online dating, single women share their photos with me for review. As I look over the pictures they send, I often wonder, “Are you serious?” Trust me, I offer plenty of empathy and compassion when that is what is called for. However, when I view poor photos, that’s when I tell it like it is.
How to Attract Men – Appeal to Them Visually!
Let’s face it – men are visual creatures and women can be too. Attraction starts with looks for many people. Women are sometimes more lenient about a man’s looks if he is charming, has a strong sense of style, exudes confidence or has a great personality. (And let’s not forget money.) These qualities can work to make a man appear more attractive.
Back to men being visual – that’s just how it is. So if you want to know how to attract men, think about how you present yourself, not only in pictures but also in person on a first date.
This Is NOT about Beauty
Of course I’m not going to critique what God gave you at birth, but I sure will suggest you make the most of it! You know the old axiom that beauty is in the eye of the beholder? Well guess what – you are also the beholder. That’s right!
Your beauty is more than 80% dependent upon how you see yourself. If you feel good about yourself and do your best to always look good as Mae suggests, then you likely FEEL good. This builds confidence – knowing you did your best to look your best. And, that spikes your appeal with men!
Don’t worry, I’m not talking about how to seduce men or look like a vamp. Far from it! You can look great and appeal to men in every day clothing when you pay attention to detail and choose wisely.
What if I Don’t Like to Dress Up?
Let me ask you something; do you want to meet a good man and fall in love? If you answered yes, then please get over it! You don’t need to wear a skirt and stockings to look your best. You can look hot in jeans if you try right? The idea is to wear clothes that make you feel fabulous. When you put on an outfit, don’t just throw on any old thing. Choose clothes consciously with the intention to look your best.
Here’s what works well for just about anyone. Try scoop neck or V-neck shirts or sweaters in red, bright pink, coral, dark blue, purple or black of course. (These colors have been proven to appeal to men.) Wear shoes with a bit of a heel. Choose earrings and necklace. Done! That’s not so bad is it? I know you can handle it.
Do I Have to Wear Makeup?
Well it’s a free country, so do as you please, but I strongly recommend it. I’m not an advocate for too much makeup, but I am in favor of enhancing what God gave you and makeup does just that. If makeup isn’t part of your normal routine, you can just do the basics of mascara, blush and lipstick or tinted gloss. Over 40, every woman can use a bit of color on her face to keep that youthful glow which certainly is a part of how to attract men.
Please Do Your Hair
Give yourself at least 10 minutes to make sure your hair looks good. You want to wear a ponytail because it’s easy? OK. Just make sure the hair is pulled back neatly and parted well if you have one. Maybe add a bit of curl or straighten as desired. If you haven’t had a new style in a while – its time to update. Nothing can make you look more youthful than a new haircut that’s currently a fashion trend.
Why Do I Need to Change?
Yes I’ve heard this moaning question so many times. Women want to know whey they have to change to meet a man and find love. You don’t need to change. But if you want a man…you need to do what you can to make yourself more appealing.
If you aren’t willing to do this to find him, ask yourself if you really want a man in your life. Dating requires a change in mindset and activity. It requires an uptick in effort. If you don’t want to invest in yourself, you don’t really want love either. Something to think about.
This is especially true if you have high expectations about the men you are willing to date. If you want a great guy or an exceptional man, if you think you are worthy of a man who is like an 8, 9 or 10 on the big man scale, then you must do your part to attract him. Just the facts ma’am.
If you want to find out more about how to attract men with body language and flirting read this post or check out my Home Study Course Flirt School. Love is NOT blind and since men are visual, do what you can to look your best. If you want to know how to attract men, put on something date-worthy, act friendly and smile at men – it’s as simple as this really, it is.