Dating Advice for Women – The Dog Days of Dating

Have you been feeling motivated to meet men? Are you going out to mingle? Have you tried anything new recently to meet people? If you can’t answer yes, read my dating advice for women to stay active this summer.

dating advice for womenMy Dating Advice for Women to Stay Motivated

When temperatures rise it’s hard to be motivated to do anything. All you want to do is sip iced tea in front of a fan or air conditioner. But guess what? Sitting around sipping tea will keep you single.

I understand. This is what I call the “Dog Days of Summer Dating”. A time when it’s hot, things slow down and your motivation goes out the window. I know, I’ve been there myself, not so long ago.

Today is the 17th anniversary of my first date with my husband. The day I met him was hot as hell. I had a really busy day, and to tell you the truth, the last thing I wanted to do is go on a blind date with somebody’s brother. I didn’t even really know Maureen, the woman who set me up with my husband.

I was tired. I was not in the mood. I was hot and very crabby. I didn’t have a good day. I figured with all that, the stars probably weren’t aligned in my favor. Ahhh, but all these distractions and excuses can be highly deceiving.

Lucky for me, I was totally committed to my search for Mr. Right. Since I had agreed to this blind date, I had to go. While cancelling sounded so right, I got dressed and went out. Good thing I followed through isn’t it?

This is not only my story, but I’ve heard it many times. Carrie, a happily married woman, didn’t want to go to the singles dance where she met her husband. But, her friend Kathy was relentless and wouldn’t take “no” for an answer. Carrie hated singles dances and didn’t want to meet one more idiot. She was through with looking and sick of trying. Good thing her girlfriend didn’t give up right?

Here’s another. Sarah started to hate Match.com. She hadn’t met anyone good in months. She didn’t even understand why she was on the stupid site. Somehow this new guy convinced her to meet him for a glass of wine. What was she thinking? She was so mad at herself for getting sucked in to one more guy. But, she had agreed, so she went. Sarah found her soul mate and they’ve been dating for 8 months now.

So, if you are feeling lazy or down in the dumps about dating in the dog days of summer, as your dating coach, let me give you a little advice said with love and support:

Get off your butt and go out! The more men you meet, the better your chances of finding a good match. Try something new. A new bar, a new singles event, a new coffee shop, a new route home. Adding newness to your routine increases your odds of meeting new people.

Keep your mind open and positive. That alone can help you connect with more men. Instead of criticizing men, which comes easily, find something good about most of the men you see. This is a very powerful exercise to open your heart and mind, and it makes you take notice of the men around you!

Remember, that winter chill, ice, and snow aren’t far behind. So, enjoy the hot weather and no more excuses about being friendly or staying true to your dream of finding love. My dating advice for women is to keep in mind that your the love of your life could show up at any time and any where if you are open and ready.

 

 

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4 responses on “Dating Advice for Women – The Dog Days of Dating

  1. Ronnie Ann Ryan Post author

    Hi Amy, There is TONS of info out there on how to handle anxiety. One good book I know about is called the Worry Trick. You can’t accomplish anything in life without taking a risk. Ask yourself what is the worst thing that can happen? You hate the guy? You leave early! You are not trapped. I’m not a doctor but you might ask yours about lorazapan for anxiety. Even the super low dose can be effective not that I’m a big fan of drugs. You could try something called Rescue Remedy – this is a homeopathic tonic made by Bach Flower Remedies. You can find this plant-based product in any health food store or Whole Foods for sure. You just put a few drops in water or in your mouth and it calms your mind and nerves. Works great for pets too if there’s a thunderstorm. Those are my ideas. Keep your mind active about your end game – finding love and that might help too. Don’t cancel! Once you push through and stop cancelling it WILL get easier.

  2. Amy

    Hi Ronnie

    I will go on a date this weekend with a guy that i met online. We’re texting constantly for a couple weeks and finally decided to meet in person.
    Here is my situation. The day closer to meet, the more i feel panic like i want to postpone or cancel the date. This is not my first date. I have been dated others before that didn’t work thing out. I once have been canceled last minute on 2nd date due to my anxious. I tried myself to be calm but doesn’t work. May i have your advice how to deal with that? FYI- i’m kinda antisocial.
    Thanks in advance!

  3. Ronnie Ann Ryan Post author

    Hi Joy, thanks for the good wishes! What a nice thing to see on my blog 🙂 I hope the right man for you is on his way to you too!

  4. Joy

    Congrats on celebrating your 17th anniversary. I’m in my 20’s but I look forward to your articles all the time. I share them with all my singkes friends. Praying that my husband is on his way (doing my part as well).

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