Are You Single and Dating Over 50?
If you haven’t dated in years and are now faced with dating over 50, that can be very stressful for several reasons. I’m going to talk about the top three stressors and give you some practical, easy solutions to help you get past them and find the love you want.
1. Fear of Rejection
This is a biggie for sure. No one enjoys the prospect of being rejected. The truth is, if you are going to meet men and date to find love, you are going to experience rejection. There is simply no way around it. But the good news is, it doesn’t need to leave you in an emotional puddle.
When you meet a great guy who doesn’t call you again or clearly isn’t interested, you could spend time feeling sorry for yourself. You could imagine there isn’t a man a live who would want you. You could recall all the other times you’ve felt rejected and let it all pile up and bury you emotionally. Of course I hope you won’t do that!
How Can You Survive Rejection?
- Shore Up Confidence. You are an awesome human being and a fabulous woman and some man out there will be darn lucky to win your love. You just haven’t met him yet. Keep shining so the right man can find you.
- Recognize Mr. Wrong. As soon as you can after facing rejection, remind yourself of this true and unwavering fact: he was NOT the right man which automatically makes him Mr. Wrong. The right man for you could never walk away. He might have seemed like a great catch but someone even better awaits you.
- He’s Not the Only One. There are more decent men out there, a lot more than you might think or notice. If one gets away, don’t sweat it. Statistically, only 16% of singles over 40 do anything to change their single status so there is less competition than it appears. Shore up your confidence, recognize him as Mr. Wrong and keep mingling to meet the right guy. That’s the only way you’re going to find him.
2. Fear of the Unknown
Right now, you know what your life is like and can handle it. You might think, “My life is good the way it is – why mess it up by dating?” Fear of the unknown and what could happen can appear at any stage of life. But as people age, they sometimes to prefer to avoid risk taking.
Dating is a risk and life is easier single. You don’t have to negotiate, fight and or feel disappointment. Of course there won’t be any kisses, romance or man to put his arm around you and snuggle close either.
You have to decide if it’s worth the risk to get what you want. If you prefer to remain single – that is a perfectly reasonable decision. On the other hand, if you have a deep craving for love and affection and someone to share your life experiences, then take the risk. It’s totally worth it!
3. Fear of Players, Womanizers and Scammers
Okay, there are a few unscrupulous men out there. But I’m here to tell you not nearly as many as you might think from listening to the media. Keep in mind, the media has to sell papers or get listeners or viewers, so it’s their job to sensationalize everything as much as possible to grab your attention. It seems to be working.
I’ve been a dating coach for over 13 years and in all that time, not one of my clients has been scammed. Not one! However, if you are super scared this might happen to you and you meet a man who seems to good to be true – keep your eyes open, ask your trusted friends and family what they think about the situation and don’t lend anyone any money. Now you’re safe again. You are in charge – just be sensible and say “No” to anything that seems a little off.
When it comes to players and womanizers, there are men who have different dating agendas than finding love. They might just want to sleep around and simply enjoy spending time with a variety of women. Unless a man tells you he’s not seeing anyone but you, expect he is seeing other women. This is simple common sense, but for some reason when emotion comes into play, common sense goes out the window.
As a woman, it’s your job to keep the process on simmer rather than letting things boil over. When you fall head over heels in love, it’s like falling down the stairs and you’re likely to get black and blue. Put the breaks on, take things slowly and get to know a guy instead of diving in. Be sensible and you’ll have nothing to worry about.
If you are worried about players, womanizers and scammers, Register Now for my free event “Is He a Player?” Monday, April 27th at 8pm edt. I’m going to tell you how to spot these guys so you can avoid them. Don’t struggle with dating over 50 – become knowledgeable and savvy to find the love you want.