Online Dating After 50 – Do You Want Friendship or Romance?

Online dating for singles over 50 is growing fast because so many people are now single at 50. That’s why AARP did a survey to learn what people think and how they are using the site. Here is one thing that really took me by surprise.

AARP Survey – Online Dating After 50

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Dating Online After  50

Recently, AARP conducted an online dating survey among singles over 50. Some statistics noted in the  2012 report surprised me. The biggest item that caught my attention is the fact that more women said  they want friendship/companionship vs. love or marriage. Honestly that made me wonder…

Why would more women set an intention for friendship instead of romance? It’s easy to understand why they don’t need or want to marry again. But seriously, romance isn’t the goal?

Nataki Edwards, AARP VP of digital strategies explained it this way,  “I think the need for love is a universal one, but we do see some of our members moving from a desire to get married to one of pure companionship and even friendship.”

I agree completely that the need for love is universal. Love is the third of five Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. But frankly, this again makes me wonder. Nataki did not point to any statistical data to back her point, so I question the validity of this statement.

Do women dating after 50 really prefer companionship to romance?

As a dating coach for women over 40 since 2002, my experience tells me many women don’t readily admit they want love. Or they don’t think they can find love again. Some of my clietns have shared this misconception that since they had love once, that is all they get. They feel later in life is too late to find love again. So these single gals hope for companionship or friendship because that seems so much more likely.

To me, this is SETTLING! When you can’t admit what you really want and can’t imagine getting it, there is absolutely no motivation or ambition to try. How could there be? Why would anyone invest in an end goal that was totally fruitless and unattainable?

Dating After 50 Is Too Overwhelming

When asked why people try online dating,  Dr. Pepper Schwartz, the Dating Ambassador for the AARP said,  “… the majority of single people at this age are interested in finding a partner, but many feel that it is too overwhelming to even try to do it,” she said.

Now I can see that one too.  The most frequent question women ask me is, “Where can I meet quality men?” Most single gals over 40 or 50 have no clue where to find men. Dr. Pepper talked about that too and said, “They are hoping someone will be at a dinner or be introduced by a friend, but are too insecure to go out and aggressively look for someone.”

That is also very true and another reason why women settle and aim for friendship.

So my mission is to crack that myth wide open. I love busting myths and this is a BIG ONE.

Can I ask you a favor if you are a single woman over 50 who i single?

Please let that go. If there is something to give up on, it’s the idea that you’ll never have love of a good man again. Never have a man kiss you sweetly, bring you flowers, share your bed or utter the words most women long to hear, “I love you”.

Amazingly, by sheer numbers
from the national census,
there has never been a better time
to find love after 50!

Just for one minute, suspend your critical mind. Stop imagining being alone for the rest of your life. Then, open your mind to consider the real possibility that you could find love. Would you be more willing to meet men and date if you knew the outcome was guaranteed?

When I awoke on my 40th birthday still single I had no hope of finding love. I couldn’t believe that had happened to me. After a few months, something shifted and I came to know in my heart I would find love if I made an effort. So I launched my dating campaign to find the right man for me. After 15 months of disappointment, rejection, hurt feelings, I clung unwaveringly to my inner knowing that love would be mine. That’s when I met the man who I have been married to for nearly 15 years.

 Online Dating Is the Answer to Find Love After 50!

The number one way that couples over 50 meet today is by online dating. That’s where single men go to find romance. So if you aren’t there, you are missing out on prime opportunities.  Stop denying yourself what you really want.

Take your destiny into your own hands and post a profile or have me write on for you. Learn how online dating works – take my home study course Sizzle vs. Fizzle so you will be educated about the pitfalls and common mistakes so you can avoid the, And discover what improves your chances at the same time.

Love can be yours! Go for what you want. Try online dating for at least six months to a year before you give up. My hope is that you won’t have to quit – because with enough tenacity, you too can find the love you want. Online dating is the solution you are looking for when it comes to friendship, companionship and LOVE!

 

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