Dating Over 50: Love Is Magical, But Don’t Leave It Up to Magic

Are you dating over 50 and looking for love? As a dating coach for women, I have discovered many single gals think love just happens. But your Fairy Godmother isn’t hanging around to grant your wish; you have to meet men and date to find the right man.

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You’re single and wish you could find love again. But you aren’t sure how to do it. There are so many questions and let’s face it some fears too. You don’t know where to meet men and you don’t want to go to bars. You don’t want to waste time dating any man who isn’t super fabulous. You don’t want to meet any players who could break your heart.  What’s a woman over 50 to do?

That’s why you spend more time thinking about love and hoping something happens. You already know how to do that. You’ve got practice with that. Trouble is, that won’t produce the results you seek – love with the right man! If you want to find love, you’re going to have to take steps to meet and date men.  many men if you want to find the right one. for you.

Right now, Match.com is running some really great ads on why you should sign up.  One of my favorites is where the interviewer asks a woman if she knows anyone who met on match. She answers yes, a cousin met her man on match. The interviewer than asks have she thought about trying match? She responds, “No”. When asked why, she said she wanted to see what would happen on her own. The interviewer asked her how that was going. The single gal admitted sheepishly, it wasn’t working.

Are you waiting to see what happens? Are you hoping the right man will magically appear on your door step? Do you think love should just happen? Let me tell you what that strategy will do for you – NOTHING!

See, it’s all about what you are going to DO TO GET WHAT YOU WANT. Finding love requires taking action. You are in charge. So you can decide to do nothing and that will likely be your result as well.

Any goal require the same series of steps to achieve them.

  1.  Set your goal and intention
  2. Determine the steps you’ll need to take to achieve your goal
  3. Start with the first step
  4. Don’t stop until you’ve completed each step and achieved your goal!

This requires some persistence. Some days won’t be so great. Others will be exciting and filled with possibilities. No matter what, you need to keep at it until you find the one for you. You may occasionally take a break, but hopefully you’ll keep that short so you don’t lose momentum.

When I was single and dating after 40, I did something every week to meet new men. I went to dances, upscale bars with music with a girlfriend, singles, groups, asked friends to fix me up and even used personal ads – the precursor to online dating.

I met plenty of the wrong men before I met the right one. But I persevered and it paid off! It will pay off for you as well.

Dating over 50 is not necessarily easy. But it is worthwhile. There are plenty of good men still out there. Women find love every day. There’s absolutely no reason why you can’t find love too if you follow this advice:

  1. Learn How Dating Works Today – Get educated so you can stop wasting your precious time or getting in your own way
  2. Create an Action Plan for Meeting Men – What steps will you take to meet men every week? You’ll need to take conscious actions to meet single men since you don’t seem to be meeting them in your every day life.
  3. Push Yourself to Try New Things – Don’t think you can just do the activities you love to find men. That is extremely unlikely, especially if you go to yoga and book clubs. Stretch past your comfort zone to go where men go.
  4. Be Committed! Often women meet a few guys, get bored and frustrated and give up. maybe you’ll try again next year. This is the long road and will leave you feeling like dating over 50 is impossible. It really is possible to find love but you can’t give up so easily. Keep going!

My dating coaching clients who follow this advice, learn what works, create a plan and follow through – they find love! Every one of them. You can do it to, believe me you can.

Love is not something that happens magically. Love is magical for sure and once you find it , your world will change. But if you want that kind of romance, you’re going to have to work for it. Decide right now that you want love in 2015. Write down your goal on paper. Think about what you will do on a weekly basis to meet men and date.

Send me an email and let me know that you a e committing to love for 2015. I can’t wait to congratulate you. And if I can support you in any way, please know I am here for you. Call me at 203-877-3777 and let’s get acquainted to see how I might be of help with coaching or my proven products.

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