Dating over 50 and feeling stressed out or disappointed? Apply the Boston Marathon’s positive approach to your love life!
Are you having a hard time dating to find love? I understand. As a dating coach for women over 40, I work with women every day who express their frustration, anger, fear and sadness. It’s not easy out there. But that doesn’t mean finding love again isn’t possible. It’s definitely a realistic goal!
Look at what happened this week at the Boston Marathon. They came on very STRONG! Think of the horrifying disaster the city survived. For this year’s race, they didn’t cower, licking their wounds, although they would have been entitled to do so. They shored up their courage and came out of the gate boldly. And this year for the first time, an American runner won the race. That adds to the pride of an event well done.
Now I don’t mean to make light of what happened at the marathon last year. But I want to look at your love life in view of this remarkable turn around.
Let’s think about how dating went for you over the last 12 months. Did you:
- Have any devastating dates that were just awful?
- Suffer disappointments from men who didn’t call?
- Not meet one single man who seemed worthy?
- Take action on a rare occasion that didn’t produce results?
- Decide to hide and not bother looking?
Looking for love is a choice you make, followed by specific actions that help you build confidence, take care of yourself, push beyond your comfort zone and meet new people. If you don’t follow these simple steps, you are not likely to find love or date anyone. Finding love is a process that requires internal strength and action.
Now you may say it’s not worth the trouble. Or that you’ve been hurt too many times to bother. But, if love is your true desire, are you going to let yourself off the hook like that? Are you going to make it that easy to quit? Are you going to allow your heart’s desire to languish unattended?
That’s not how they handled the marathon this year in Boston. They took action. Smart steps to come back with a fabulous and exciting event enjoyed by all. I invite you to take a life lesson from Boston and the runners who participated.
When bad things happen, you need to heal. Take time to do that, but not too much time. Just like a runner who takes too much time off from training, you’ll have to build up all over again if you don’t get back in the game.
If you are dating over 50, be willing to look at your part in what happened in your love life. Assess what you might do differently next time so you can date smarter. Rebuild confidence to face the dating scene with strength. Know that you are not only worthy, but a fabulous catch. Some man would be darn lucky to be with a women like you!
Check out this story about the couple who were both injured last year at the Boston Marathon and came back this year to cross the finish line of the handcycle race while holding hands. They faced incredible adversity with each one losing a limb in the blast, as they watched the race from the sidelines last year. On Tuesday, April 21st, they returned to face down the scene and emerge as victors.
Don’t let your hurt feelings and disappointments debilitate you and keep you from finding love. Dating over 50 is hard. But its not like some of the stress this couple had to deal with is it? People tend to achieve what they commit to. So consider this my invitation to shore up your courage, build confidence, and set an intention that you are unstoppable.
Until you cross the finish line of finding love, get back in there to run the race. Be strong, keep going and hold a clear vision that dating over 50 will deliver the results you want – you can find lasting love with the man of your dreams.