If you want to find love, it’s time to realize that men are attracted to more than your looks.
Do men have some particular physical assets they look for in a woman? Of course! Don’t you as a woman have certain physical traits you like in a man?
This is totally normal and blown out of proportion by the media. But, according to Jonathon Aslay, a Dating Coach from California, men are also attracted to three other important aspects of a woman that have nothing to do with her looks at all.
Jonathon and I agree on the following three qualities about you as a woman that catch a man’s attention and turn his head.
1. Confidence. Yes, a confident woman is a turn on in a big way. Men, just like women, want a confident partner to share life with. That’s why I have an audio program called Confidence is Sexy!, to help my dating coaching clients build up their confidence and stop worrying about other women.
When you are confident, you know men are attracted to you. You never grovel or work hard to get a man’s attention because you know you don’t need to do that. This inner strength is quite magnetic, especially since there are so many women who throw themselves at men’s feet these days. When you serve yourself up on a silver platter, men will be happy to take advantage of you, but won’t consider you seriously for a long-term relationship.
Your confidence shows in how you walk, how you talk to people and even your posture. When you are confident, your inner beauty shines through for all to see. Working on your confidence should be your number one priority to find love in 2014 for all of these reasons.
2. Humor. One thing that women always say to me is how they want a man who can make them laugh. Well, men want the same from you. Life is more fun with laughter and it’s good for the soul. Plus, people who can see the humor in daily living are a heck of a lot more pleasant to be with right?
If you meet a man with a good sense of humor, he wants to know you appreciate this facet of his personality. Did you ever meet a guy whose sense of humor seemed odd to you? I had a boss once that I could never really tell if he was joking or serious. And when he told a joke sometimes I just didn’t get it. that made our relationship somewhat stressful. Same thing is true for romance.
3. Intellect. A woman who is bright is definitely a turn on. Quality men want to know you have something going on behind that pretty face. Your intelligence brings out another side of men who enjoy a bit of a challenge. This isn’t to say you should boldly challenge men, but that you can let him see that you didn’t just fall of the turnip truck either. Your quick wit and smarts can be just as sexy as your smile. After all, you aren’t the only want who wants intellectually stimulating conversation.
To find love, my advice as a dating coach for women over 40 and Jonathon’s too, is to stop worrying so much about your looks. Take care of yourself and look your best by all means. But don’t fret over not being thin enough, tall enough, pretty enough and focus on your confidence, sense of humor and smarts. These essential pieces of your personality make a tremendous impression on the quality men you meet.