Need some solid midlife dating advice? Recapture your flirty college coed self to have more fun dating today.
It’s back to school season and the kids are going back to college. Don’t you wish you knew then what you know now about so many things? I do.
While I was reminiscing, I started thinking about what that would be like to go back and do it all over again. Hindsight is 20/20 so I figure I’d be a lot smarter about my choices or at least see things more clearly.
Then I realized that I can also bring parts of my past into my present life. Those days of being a carefree college coed are still within my memory banks. And yours too. That means you still have whatever abilities you had back then, available to you right now, present day. Take a moment and think about that and all the possibilities that presents to you…
Perhaps in college you were free from:
- Bad breakups
- Emotional baggage
- Worrying about your kids
- Concern about how to act around men
- Heavy career responsibilities
- Caring for elderly parents
- Too much laundry!
- Feeling self conscious about your body
- Feeling like you need to be more serious
- Limiting ideas about being an “adult”
Back then you just had a lot less to worry about. And so you were lighter and less restricted. You could flirt more freely or interact with the guys in your class or your dorm. It seemed cute guys were everywhere you looked. Whether you were eating meals or going to parties – everything you did provided an opportunity to connect.
That part of yourself, the carefree college coed, she’s still alive within you. She knows how to have fun at a party. She knows how to talk to a guy in a new class, even if you’ve never met him. And even if she was a shy gal, she had girlfriends who would step in or egg her on right?
My Dating Advice: Bring Her Back to the Future
So here’s my big idea about “Back to the Future”. Bring that part of you back to your present day dating life. You can do this so easily by closing your eyes and recalling a happy memory from those days. Choose a memory of a fun time with friends -girls and guys. When you get that picture, really feel what that fun time was like. Relive it for a few moments to get into the mindset. Then when you are ready open your eyes and realize that fun girl is still with you even now!
Now you may think this is just plain silly. But I’m asking you to trust me – this is REAL and will be incredibly helpful. Try this little exercise before you go on a first date or when you are searching online for men to email.
Let your flirty co-ed who was less inhibited, be with you now in your dating life. And don’t worry that you risk seeming flighty, childlike or foolish. That part of you will meld with the smart woman you are today.
But, and this is HUGE, here’s what your coed past will do for you:
She will lighten up your spirit and make you extremely appealing!
She will let those barriers that come with age and heartbreak fall away so you can be friendlier and more feminine. She’ll help you be the delightful, light-hearted woman you truly are, but forget sometimes.
Bring that youthful part of you back to the future. Unleash her fun-loving, adventurous spirit as you search for the right man and know that she is working her delightful charm on the men you meet. And don’t forget, she is YOU! Have fun!