Are you dating after 40 and not having any luck with love?
No one said dating is easy. Whether you are dating after 40 or younger, looking for love takes time and effort. Yet, I am constantly amazed at how many people think love will somehow magically fall into their lap.
As you can imagine, I speak to many single women every week. Here is how the conversation often goes.
Prospective Client: I just can’t find a decent guy
Dating Coach: I understand, it’s not always easy. What have you done over the last month to meet new men?
Prospective Client: Oh, what have I done to meet men? Um, not much, nothing really.
Dating Coach: So there is a big gap between what you say you want and what you are doing to find it.
Since most women who call me do almost nothing to find love. is it that surprising that they can’t find a decent guy? Now I know this is not always true. I have some clients who are active. They do go out to dances, singles events and coffee dates from online dating. And yet, they haven’t found true love yet. Sometimes this is related to stringent criteria, and sometimes it simply boils down to timing. Looking for your romantic partner does take time and is a numbers game.
But for the vast majority of women who contact me, they want love, but aren’t doing a thing to find it. Well, they did call me so that is an empowering first step.
As your dating coach, here’s my question for you:
What is your commitment to finding love?
- Right now, take a moment to answer this question for yourself.
- Do you get out once a week to meet new people?
- Are you willing to stretch beyond your comfort zone?
- Have you taken the pressure off and are open to meeting new men , not just the perfect man?
- Do you try new groups or singles events?
- Have you posted an online dating profile?
- Do you say “Yes” to opportunities where you could meet people?
- Do you rely on your feminine charm?
- Have you updated your wardrobe, hair and makeup recently?
- Do you leave pursuit up to the men?
Every one of these questions guides you along the path to find love and will help you get there faster, especially when you are dating after 40. When younger, things can be easier because you have less inhibitions, fewer work and life demands, fewer habits to break and bad experiences to get beyond. But that doesn’t mean that dating after 40 is impossible. After all – I did it – which is why I know you can find love too.
You are the only person who can find the love you want.
You are the one who is totally responsible for finding love. When you cross paths with enough men and open your heart and mind to men and love, you will find him – that ideal man for you. When you invest in yourself and your heart’s desire, the Universe will also step up and provide the last ingredient – a little kismet to create the magic moment for love fall into place.
Please make the commitment to yourself to find love. Do your part so the Universe will notice.