Do you want to understand men better on a first date?
Do you know what the worst possible thing you could do when you meet a new guy is? As a dating coach, I’m going to tell you in this post so you never have to worry about making this self-sabotaging mistake again.
Let me give you the scenario so you can really see how this is such a problem. Maybe you are meeting a guy for a first coffee date – in the dating business this is called “Date Zero”. See it’s not really a date. Its a meeting to see if the two of you have enough in common and chemistry to go on a real first date.
OK, so you walk in at 7pm on a Tuesday night. You had tough day at work. The traffic on the way home stunk. Laundry is piling up at home along with a bunch of other things hanging over your head.
If you have kids, there’s homework and dealing with the babysitter. Or maybe your ex has the kids this night – that might make it a little easier if true.
You wanted to freshen up but who had time for that? What a day!
You walk into the place and look for the guy. After you spot him, you go over and sit down. Thankfully he asks what you want to drink and you order coffee or maybe a glass of wine to help you relax after such a busy day!
What do you talk about first? Perhaps he asks “How was your day?” And you start to tell him!
- First this happened
- Then your boss said
- There was an accident on the express way
- The copier was broken again and your computer has some stupid virus
- Plus its month end and all these reports are do!
- Whew, you tell him how crazy busy your life is
Understand Men: Know What His Red Flags About Women Are
Oh No! That’s when the sirens and buzzers go off in his head. Major red flags about you because its sounds to him like you are…
WAY TOO BUSY TO BE AVAILABLE TO DATE HIM!
That’s it – it only takes one thing like this and your chances dissolve under your nose. Even though he might not show it, he sits back more in his chair and relaxes. Not because he feels so at ease with you but because HE NO LONGER CARES.
Like so many men, he gets turned off when a woman opens up about how busy her life is and starts complaining during the very first conversation. It’s just not attractive, no matter how true this is about your life. I’m not saying you can’t talk about your life. But this is a first date right? You want to give him a good impression. You want him to think you’ve got your life together. You want him to think you are happy and easy to be with.
But when you complain and talk about how busy your life is, what he hears is this:
- “She has a lot of problems”
- “Is this really her best?”
- “She’s going to be hard to get together with”
- “Ugh, this isn’t fun. I could be watching the game”
- “She won’t have much time for me”
- “Will I have to listen to this all the time?”
- I don’t want to hear this – too bad, she’s really cute”
As a dating coach for women over 40, I want you to understanding men and how they see you. Knowing how this works changes your dating experience because it puts you in control. In addition, I want you to be as open as possible so you don’t miss any chances of connecting with the right guy for you. This can happen so easily when you have limiting thoughts or attitudes that get in the way of finding love.
So many women are not even aware of
what is getting in their way of finding love
Do you know what might be keeping you from finding the love of your life? My bet is you are not fully in touch with it. You may have inklings. You may think it’s all about how the men today stink. You may think there just aren’t any good men or you don’t know where to find them. I have found in 11 years as a dating coach, the reasons probably go a bit deeper. That’s why I am offering this new, breakthrough program:
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