Single women – please don’t call him! I know it’s not easy to wait and wonder, especially when you think it’s so easy to just pick up the phone and reach out to that new guy. Read on to find out why this essential dating advice is completely in your best interest.
Dear Ronnie – The Dating Coach,
I went on a date 3 days ago with a guy I met online. We texted for several weeks before he finally asked me out. Normally I wouldn’t stick around that long, but I got the impression early on that he is fairly shy.
The date went well. He texted me within 30-minutes of us saying goodbye, making small talk, and went on to say I was beautiful and he had fun. He’s alluded to seeing me again in the future and things we could do, but not actually asked or made plans.
I know its only been 3 days, but I’m not sure what the norm is. One of my friends suggested he may be holding off because he knows I’m in the middle of finals week and I’ve been pretty busy studying. I don’t know. Still seems plans could be made for in the future, after finals right?
I’m hesitant to believe he’s lost interest because he constantly initiates contact off and on all day, every day. I’m new back in the dating market and I’m pretty much learning the rules of the game for the first time.
Itching to Dial
This is one of the hardest things for women to understand and follow through on. But I urge you – Don’t call him! If you want to know how much a man is interested in you, there is only one way to do that. Don’t call him and don’t do anything! This is where you want to rely on your feminine charm and understand how the Yin Yang Dating Principle works.
You say he’s still emailing or texting, but not asking for another date? Is that right? Here’s my dating advice and solution:
Stop answering his texts and emails.
When you pull back, you rely on your Yin energy of being receptive. You allow the man to miss you and wonder – “Hey where’d she go?” Then, if he doesn’t want to lose touch, he’ll call you! This is so much better than trying to pursue him and taking over the Yang role of action. Don’t fall into this trap!
The Yin Yang Dating Principle is very much like ballroom dancing. The man leads and the woman follows. Allowing the man to lead and pursue you is by far the best, and in truth the only way to discover how much he wants to be with you. If you try to take the lead, most men don’t like being pursued and don’t want to compete with the male energy you are expending to win him over. They will lose interest and disappear. This happens ALL THE TIME!
That means, if you call him, ask him out, buy tickets to things, email all the time, you are pursuing him. He may go along for the ride because he feels flattered, curious or hopeful he’ll get lucky. But none of that means he’s deeply interested in you for the long run! Just don’t call him. Seriously.
My proven dating advice is to sit back and respond when he contacts you – this is better for collecting information about what he’ll do to win you over. The vast majority of dating experts agree on this concept and strategy. Taking this a step further, if you want your guy to call and ask you out, totally stop responding to his technology communications. Don’t answer his texts and emails until after he calls you.
Whatever you do, don’t call him.
If this man is truly interested, he’ll call you and ask you out. Get scarce to get his attention! Rely on your feminine charm and Yin energy to draw him to you. And if this doesn’t work and he still doesn’t come around, then you’ve learned something crucial to dating this guy – he’s just not that into you. That’s when you know it’s time to move on to seek a better man.
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