My Broken Heart After One Date, Keeps Me from Looking from Love
Have you been broken hearted after just meeting a man who seemed promising?
Broken Hearted – Celeste’s Story
Celeste was finally ready to put her toe in the water and try dating again. She wanted the companionship, the romance and to share her life with a good man.
She went online and met this guy who seemed like he had real potential. The conversation took off easily. He showed a lot of interest immediately and she felt really optimistic. At the end of the conversation, he asked about her kids. She said she had three young children and he replied he wasn’t into that, was sorry, then got off the phone.
Celeste was enraged. How could he do that? He was the perfect man for her and said all those nice things. She was broken hearted.
Broken Hearted – Nadine’s Story
Nadine met a guy at Starbucks. He started flirting with her , took her number and called a few times. She had one fabulous date and then…he disappeared. At first she thought he’d pop back in. But the days turned into weeks confusing her and making her feel really angry and hurt. She was also broken hearted
Both these situations ruined dating for Celeste and Nadine and they don’t want to date at this time. They don’t trust themselves or men. Can you relate to these stories?
You feel betrayed, lied to, ripped off! The guy you met came on strong and made promises about the future. He made you think he was really interested. And now – nothing! You could just scream. You are so broken hearted. Did I hit a nerve?
I have heard this exact same story from several women this week. It made me feel sad that I couldn’t seem to help these women. I am amazed at how many women in their 40’s and 50’s give up after just one man.
This is an emotional epidemic about:
Yes, after one call or one date (or sometimes three dates) women mistakenly think they found a life partner. Not just a man to date and get to know to see what happens.
Broken Hearted Means Emotionally Invested Before You Know Him
Instead, women emotionally project a future after one conversation or date. They get invested miles down the road which explains why you would feel so devastated and broken hearted over the loss after only one date or call.
Broken Hearted – My Story
Trust me, I understand this problem more than you know. When I was 36, I had several dates with Steve who I thought was “The One.” Our time together was so magical. He made plans for a Broadway show weekend. Sounded dreamy.
Being a straightforward person, I took him at face value and thought he meant it. Why would it not be real? Who would do that? Turns out Steve would. I never saw him again. I then WASTED 4 YEARS OF MY YOUTH till I was 40 before I got back out there to meet men and date again.
What is the solution?
Adopt a “Wait and See” Strategy and Remain
You cannot allow yourself to get prematurely attached or emotionally invested. An open heart is important for dating, but don’t just give it away! You must stay happily neutral to wait and see until you better understand his intentions. That requires weeks of consistency as you get to know the guy. He may still disappoint you, but the Wait and See Strategy will help you through it all. It worked for me and kept me dating through every disappointing man until I met the 30th man, my husband Paul.