Dress Your Feminine Best for a First Dinner Date at Any Age
Hi Ronnie The Dating Coach,
I have a very important question. I am 65, a widow and just starting to date. I recently met a man through J-date and we played bridge together one afternoon. It was a delightful and I really liked him.
Now, he asked me out for our first dinner date! So, here is the question… What do I wear? My single friends say I need a dress, but I don’t have one. Advice, please. And is there any other important etiquette I should keep in mind?
Waiting your response…Elisabeth
I agree with your friends. Most men like a feminine woman. So a dress or skirt are good choices for a first dinner date. If you don’t have any and don’t want to buy one right now, then wear a feminine top with pants. Men notice shoes too. Do you have any nice shoes? Heels (they don’t have to be very high) or strappy sandals?
Then just be yourself and stay on positive topics. No negativity and or sad subjects. And you probably know this but don’t talk about your husband either. That’s like bringing him on your date with you – a big “no no”. If your date asks about him, give him a brief answer, then move on to lighter topics.
You want to be your most delightful self – showing him your happy, fun side. But don’t worry – you can be yourself – but your BEST SELF.
Dating is like interviewing for a job. You wouldn’t talk about how bad the job market is, how you hate your boss, how interviewers are cruel, how there is age discrimination, etc. You get the idea.
And if your date goes to the dark side conversationally, see what you can do to shift the conversation and lighten him up. Sometimes men need this too.
Men chose women who are fun to be with and make them feel good and masculine. They want to be proud to be with you. That’s it!
Lastly, don’t put too much pressure on one date. Remember your first dinner date is still a get-to-know-you event. Too much pressure can really get in the way of a good time. Remember – it’s just ONE date.
After this date, make it your business to get some dating clothing and no excuses! Buy a few outfits that you feel really
good in – this is so important for your confidence and your femininity. When you look good, you are so much freer to be your best self. That’s the woman who will captivate a man for sure. And if not this man, there are plenty more fish in the sea for you to dazzle.
Enjoy your first dinner date!
Wishing you love,
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