Are you a serial dater?
Do you even know what a serial dater is?
Two types of Serial Daters
A serial dater is a person who dates a lot of people looking for just the right person. However, there never seems to be a right person. So relationships don’t last long and you are back looking for love again very soon.
Another definition of serial dating is when you date someone once or twice, and decide to stick with that person without having checked out other options first. This means you end up in one unsatisfying, long-term relationships after another, because you don’t spend the time qualifying men to know they are right for you. Some women get serious with a guy who shows interest, even if he’s not right. This is the opposite of the first example, when no one is good enough.
Either way, according to some experts, these behaviors put you into the “Serial Dater” category. I’ve certainly run into this as a dating coach for women.
What Causes Serial Dating?
The root cause varies depending on what type of serial dater you are. For women who can’t find the right guy, this behavior may stem from “Intense Selectivity”. When you have super-strict criteria and won’t budge from a single variant, it can become quite difficult to find a man to satisfy your qualifications. I’ve worked with dating coaching clients on this challenge to help them open to more possibilities and different types of men.
When a serial dater of this type calls me to say she is dating a guy who is SO different from any other guy she’s ever dated, I know…she’s probably found the right man for her! And if not that, she’s definitely on the right track to finding a good match.
On the other hand, when a woman dates the first guy who comes along, because he’s a man who pursued her, this is a true “Lack of Selectivity”. I work with dating coaching clients to help them discover some qualifying characteristics that will be a good match
An Oprah Show about Serial Daters
Here’s the good news about being a Serial Dater…Oprah wants you on her show!
If you want a crack on being on Oprah’s show, part of the new OWN network, fill out the form. She is specifically looking for serial daters, so if that speaks to you , go for it!
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