What does “Soulmate” mean to you?
According to Dictionary.com, it is a noun, meaning: “A person with whom one has a strong affinity.” That is so lack luster and dull for a word with so much emotional zest.
Many of my dating coaching clients talk about seeking their soulmate. They feel there is one special person who is the perfect match. A wonderful, miraculous individual who solves all their problems and brings boundless joy to their life.
That’s not exactly my perspective.
Do I think there is just one person who is the perfect match for you? No. I’m not of that belief. My perspective is that there are a few people who could suit you nicely and make a great partner. Of course you only NEED one – isn’t that great?
A lot depends on how you define the term “Soul” itself. Neale Donald Walsch author of Conversations with God, describes the “Soul” as a group of individuals that you incarnate with over eons. With this understanding, he says your soulmate is just that, a partner or mate from the same soul, whom you recognize in life.
I’ve heard this theory before from the book Journey of Souls by Michael Newton, PH. D. Now we’re getting deep into some philosophy, but I hope you’ll come with me 🙂
Michael is a hypnotherapist who regressed clients, not to past lives, but the time IN BETWEEN lives. He claims we have “pods” of other souls we are connected to and we reincarnate over and over again with the agreement to help each to evolve and learn life’s lessons.
Both Neale and Michael say the same thing – your soul mates might not be romantic partners, but could take on many other roles including parents, siblings, best friends and even your enemies. That IS deep. This concept certainly puts a new twist on the term “Soulmate” doesn’t it?
Thinking about it this way, you can see that just because you are soulmates with someone, doesn’t mean you will be romantically right for each other. Some relationships are meant to be, while others seem like they were meant to be, but don’t work out. This new way of defining soulmates can help you start to feel OK if you found a soulmate, but didnt’ stay together.
The point is, I don’t believe there is only one perfect soulmate for you. I do know that your soulmate is not “perfect”. Although, he might be “perfect for you” and there’s a tremendous difference between those two ideas.
If you are holding on to the idea of seeking your one perfect soulmate, as your dating coach, I have a request. See if you can broaden that search to include seeking one of your “soulmates”, the potential partners who would be a good match. This way, you won’t wait for perfection, and will hopefully be open to a man who is wonderful and human all at the same time.
Wishing you love!