My friend and colleague Terry Hernon MacDonald is a big proponent of the Law of Attraction (LOA) to attract the love you want. She wrote a great article recently that really digs deep into the details of how to use LOA. I thought it was fabulous so I am sharing it with you.
I also applied the Law of Attraction to successfully find love. I talk about LOA with dating coaching clients, making sure your inner and outer worlds are aligned to attract love.
Women who are dating after divorce or dating over 40 sometimes take all the steps to meet men, but it still doesn’t happen. Sometimes you are doing all the inner work, but not taking the outer steps to meet men. Both have to be working in sync to attract the right man for you.
Here is what Terry wrote recently about her method to make LOA work:
“During a recent coaching session, a woman told me that she felt as though she was “losing ground” if she didn’t have a date every Saturday night (she’s using one of the dating sites to meet men).
But her last few dates have been disappointing. She’s feeling burned out and thinks she could use a break from the dating merry-go-round — but she’s afraid to take it.
Here’s why she should:
Spending — and reveling in — time alone can be great for your self-esteem. (Note: The more solid your self-esteem, the more attractive you are. Guys love women who like themselves.) Use a free Saturday night to do something you want to do but might not ordinarily allow yourself to do.
For example: Last night I went to see “Something Borrowed” with a friend. A woman in the row ahead of us was by herself. Nothing wrong with that; I still see movies by myself now and then! I enjoy it. If there’s a movie you want to see, why not see it tonight?
Or, you can use the time to use the LAW OF ATTRACTION to bring the RIGHT man into your airspace. If your last dates were duds, bring to mind what made them duds (a beautiful friend of mine recently had a first date with a guy who — wait for it — whipped out nasal spray at a restaurant table).
Write a list of the traits that turned you off (cheap? boring? bad taste?). Then write a list of those opposite traits (generous, fascinating, good taste) and follow it up with an affirmation:
“I am dating a generous, fascinating man with impeccable taste.”
Now imagine yourself at dinner with this man. Use all your senses: Touch, sight, hearing, smell, and taste.
- What does it FEEL like to be out with this man?
- How does he TREAT you?
- Does he make you LAUGH?
- When he opens the door for you, what do you SMELL? (Maybe the scent of laundry soap in his shirt)?
- What NOISES are around you (music, tinkling of silverware)?
- What is he WEARING?
- What are you EATING?
- Can you feel the WEIGHT of your drink glass in your hand?
Write a little scene describing this date. Make it as real as possible. Then, bring it to life in your imagination. Savor it.
This is a valuable use of your time. The subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between a real event and an imagined one. Keep bringing your scene to life in your mind twice or three times a day (or as often as possible!), and your subconscious mind will reward you by bringing it to pass.
Worked for me. Worked for my friend, Ronnie. Worked for countless others.
Enjoy your Saturday night. You’ve earned it.”
Learn more about how Terry uses the Law of Attraction by getting your own copy of her book, How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams. Click here to read more about it or get yours. I’ve read her book and thoroughly resonated with her suggestions and tips. They are sound, simple and very effective! As your dating coach, I highly recommend her book.