This post is a continuation from yesterday inspired by the Soulmate Summit. Below, you’ll find four additional tips to help you meet more men than you ever dreamed possible.. As I tell my dating coaching clients who are dating over 40 and dating after divorce, who you are when you meet men is far more important than where to go.
Truth is, there isn’t a special place where all the good men hang out. So, it stands to reason that the more open you are to men in general, the better your chances of finding good ones!
Think about these tips to see which ones you can incorporate into your life. To meet more men than you ever dreamed possible, make yourself more available, friendly and approachable. Here’s how:
5. Learn to say “yes”.
Are you a woman who says “yes, sure, I’d love to”? Or are you a woman who complains, says “no”, or isn’t in the mood? Men like women who are pleasant and easy to be around. Men like women who make them feel good and use their feminine energy.
What can you do about it? I’m not saying you have to be Suzy Sunshine all the time. But, when you first meet someone, put your best foot forward. Just like a job interview, you wouldn’t start out complaining about how awful your job search has been or how you hate your ex boss. Same thing goes for dating!
When you say “yes”, you give men a chance to get to know you. You’ll be happier and more positive, characteristics that are very attractive to EVERYONE. Say “Yes” to coffee, a concert, a sports game. Show him you are easy to get along with. Say “Yes” and make the most of your love life’s opportunities.
6. Appreciate that men appreciate you!
When a man looks at you, he is demonstrating that he finds you attractive. Women often don’t like the men who find them attractive and focus on how they are the wrong men. I used to feel this way and lots of my dating coaching clients do as well. But guess what? When you put up your hand to say “NO, not those men”, the Universe hears you saying “Not Men”. Oh oh, that’s not a message you want to send out.
What can you do about it? When you see men looking at you, first recognize they find you attractive! So, in your mind say a silent “Thank you”. You don’t have to date them, but take in the compliment to build your self-esteem before you go on your merry way.
7. Open up to men who aren’t just like you.
So many of my dating coaching clients describe the man they want as a carbon copy or mirror image of themselves! You often want a man who is just like you, who likes the same things, has the same interests, the same education, work, etc. But guess what? These similar men might not be a good fit. In fact, they probably aren’t a match because you are too similar.
Let’s say you are an aggressive woman looking for a super successful entrepreneur. Think what his life is like. He’s crazy busy, has a million things to do, works all the time and never stops. Gee, that doesn’t sound like a lot of fun.
Not only that, but he’s used to being IN CHARGE. That means he wants a woman who will just go with what he says. Is that you? Not if you are the same kind of person. You too want to be in charge and that spells POWER STRUGGLE!
What can you do about this? Consider other types of men. You might be better off with a man who isn’t like you – a man who is attracted to his opposite. That way, he can teach you about his world, and you can share your favorite things. Plus, you will likely have some overlap of interests, but hopefully you won’t be spending your time arguing over who’s in charge.
8. All men are not the same.
If you’ve been hurt, cheated on or disappointed, please keep this fact in mind – all men are not the same. Men really do exist who are a joy to know. However, if you insist that all men are the same,you won’t be open to meeting them. That means you won’t be able to find a good one and you’ll be living a self-fulfilling prophecy.
What can you do about this? Find a way to open your eyes, heart and mind to new men. It’s the only way you can discover which ones are good and which ones are not right for you. There’s only one way to weed them out – meet them and date them.
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